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anger management for young women
February 2, 2001
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I am a young woman with anger management problems. I grew up in a household with a father who possibly had an intermittent explosive disorder. I was much angrier as a teenager, but my anger has recently become a problem due to family and work related stress. I am in search of counseling and/or a good book on anger management. I live near Leesburg VA. Can you suggest counselors and/or books?

February 2, 2001
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Yea, I'd suggest counselling. Books are a great way to get in touch with your deep feelings, any psychological books and self help books, there enlightening. However, they can make u remember, which can trigger old feelings. If u think your anger needs control, then books give an insight, but I would think one to one therpy would be far more rewarding.

What do u do when your angry? That is if u want to share it? It just gives me an insight into your anger.

February 3, 2001
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I have the same problem too. Every morning I tell myself that "come what may, I wiil not loose my cool today". This resolution hardly lasts an hour. I am living with this problem for many years now, have lost many good friends,have created lasting enemies, and earned a general dislike of colleagues. I have not been able to correct myself.I curse myself no end.It is like an addiction. It is so hard indeed. If you succeed in changing yourself, please let me know how you did it.

February 3, 2001
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Look in the yellow pages...call any numbers there ands ask for info on anger management.

Universities with counselling programs might be able to steer you to someone or have a low cost program.

Go to the self help or psych section of a large bookstore to find reference materials.

February 3, 2001
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Chickie, I think that you need to look into your thoughts and ask your self ,What is it about my work and my family that is causing the anger to creep up on me? What are you thinking about when you start to get angry ? Things about the present or thinghs about the past. Talk it out with a good Cognitive therapist. It will help.

February 4, 2001
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I must say I do agree with counslr. I come from a family with explosive tempers, and I myself have that cross to bare. The saddest thing for me is tht my 17 yr. old had inherited it. Find out what it's really about. After many years of pain and now inflicting it on the ones I love most, I wish I had better control.

February 4, 2001
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Thank you for everybody's responses. In answer to Lewis's question, here is a typical situation. My husband and I had an extensive talk (one of many in a repetitive cycle)about my issues with his mother and sister. We run a family business and part of our living space (mine and my husband's) doubles as the office for the entire business. Needless to say we are constantly at the center of a lot of stress and many demands are made of us simply because we live here. After an emotional discussion, with what seemed like the same solutions warmed over, we had come to an agreement to start looking for a house. This is a difficult decision for financial and personal reasons. I came in to check the message board and I wanted to share what I had learned with my husband. I called him away from his computer and he read the messages that I thought were most pertinent to my situation. We had both agreed that it was time that I find counseling. I wasn't sure if I was ready to respond to the message board (lewis in particular) and I wanted his advice. After reading the messages he just left the room without saying anything. I was furious. I asked him why he was leaving. I said, "I want you to help me with this decision and you are just leaving. Well fine." I angrily shut down the computer and made it clear through my quiet slamming of objects that I was really angry. We had it out again. He just could not understand why I wanted him to get involved with the message board when we had just spent over an hour talking over solutions for our difficult living situation. He used an arguing tactic that really drives me crazy. He threw his hands up in the air and stood there silently-- a motion that tells me that he feels like a punching bag. He has used this analogy in at least the last 6 arguements we have had over the past 3 months. He then told me that he refused to sit here and listen to me while I continued to go over the same negative emotions about his family and our living situation. I can't take it when he does that. It throughs me into an even deeper rage mixed with feelings of shame and regret because he is making me feel like a spoiled child who can't appreciate the good side of life. We both became silent. I got into bed fuming and waiting for another show down. He then comes into our room 15 minutes later and wants to make up. He tells me that he loves me. He wants me to be happy. I apologize and then we are able to go to sleep. I would like to believe that this is the end of a long cycle of arguments, but I know that his mother and sister (as pleasant and helpful as they can be) will begin to bother me again. I won't say anything to them because i don't want to offend them (i also know that they would not be as forgiving as the man I married). I will keep it bottled up, carefully stirring it with visions of confrontations I'd like to have with his mother and sister. Then I will explode again. It's a frustrating cycle.

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