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Anger, Bad Stuff Happens and you can't do anything about it
October 24, 2001
4:02 pm
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I am so everything right now - My younger brother just got convicted of DUI and was sentenced to 90 days of boot camp - there is nothing I can do for him, I live in another state, he is NOT a bad person, not a criminal, he is a passive type who got influenced by his stupid friends into driving drunk and taking them to the store to get beer. He roled his car and injured his friend, himself, and a lady (who actually hit him). My brother is only 22. He has a good job (probably no longer though). My father is in a bad state of health, cronic pain problems, and he's heavily medicated. I believe he is addicted to his pain medication. He is very depressed, and not fun to be around. My poor mother has to cope with all of this. I feel bad for everyone but what can I do? I live a few states away. The stupid friend of my brother's was sending him threatening notes and such things, but the court sentenced my brother to pay this kid $300 for his lost pager, shoes and shirt occuring during the accident. What is wrong with our legal system in this country???

I read on the internet now that we must wash our hands after opening our mail. How can we as people live like this and remain mentally compitant? I'm not religious and I don't feel that spirituality is going to help me. I am a logical, intelligent, college-educated person looking for practical advice. What is a good way to deal with this kind of stuff? Do you just aknowledge it, let yourself be angry and sad, and then tell yourself that you must accept it, that there is nothing you can do about it? And what about this Anthrax thing? Are we supposed to live in bubbles now?

It's bad enough when people have everyday problems to contend with. When you add all of this national and world BS on top, it becomes very draining.

Any thoughts? Anybody gone through something similar with jailtime stuff? My brother and my family are not poor, they are upper middle class, my brother made a bad decision and he's paying the price. Anybody in a similar situation experienced this?


October 24, 2001
4:32 pm
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Take a big deep breath and do it again. These are indeed strange times that are challenging all of us. Bad things do happen to good people, my daughter got a dui, going for tampoons, go figure, she forgot her glasses, and is one of those thin types, only one glass of wine, but paid a real heavy price, for a lesson, that my some day save her life. we just had some sort of boom and the house shook, used to figure it for an earth quake, now wonder, do we close the windows, or breath or what, so I just kept typing. Can't get upset, can't get angry, can't surrender. It sucks, but not more than we can handle. So, breath ugh ugh close the window first, and don't forget to laugh. it will all work its self out.

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