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anger 16year old son
September 3, 2000
12:23 pm
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ttsal
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my son has an anger problem for what reason i can not understand .our house hold is in good standings he is an only child my husband and i have been married for 26 yrs.we both have good jobs and a nice home but my son is always ready to fly off the handle when we talk with him we did the drug test thing and this was,t the problem but he does have a bad choice a frends all his frends are drop outs and come from mixed up families his friends are always telling him that he should drop out a school and get a fill time job and make lots of money. in the 17 years that he has gone to school he has only miss about 8 days he is a good student and always got good grades until last year he now has his own car .but i,am not sure but i think his anger is that he wants to guit school and knows he can,t be in control to make that happen and this is up setting to him not to be able to follow in his losing friends foot steps and knowing that in no way will his parents agree to this like there parents .i,am just not sure if this is the problem or if it is something else.any feedback will be most welcome.

September 4, 2000
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ttsal,

First of all, one of the biggest problems in his life are those loser friends! 16 is a rebellious age and for your son to be hanging out with these kids who have absolutely no goals and probably will mooch off of their parents or grandparents for the rest of their life. It sounds to me that your son has had it pretty good and he is too ungrateful to see this. How did you discipline him over the years? Where you strict or let him do his own thing? Does he have any respect for you? And if he is into drugs God help him and you. I have seen what drugs and alcohol can do to a person and the family. If you haven't already...TAKE CONTROL! He is still under your roof! Do not let him have these bad influence friends over, they will just keep bringing him down. And lay down the law...He is not to associate with these friends anymore, and when he goes out, know where he is going and check up in him. I recently almost lost my 17 year old newphew, who like your son was a very good kid, who got good grades and did not really give my sister or her husband any trouble...UNTIL...he started hanging around the wrong crowd! He was a follower and just wanted everyone to like him, Everyone but the right people. Anyway one night around 9 he told my sister he was going over this kids house, which she knows, well turned out he went over someone elses house where the parents were away and about 30 kids where there drinking and fooling around. Well they tied 2 big trucks together bumper to bumper and wanted to see which truck was the strongest. My newphew was in one of the back of the truck with many others and the rope snapped jolting the truck, throwing my newphew out and he hit his head on the concrete driveway. Well my sister gets a call about 10 saying that they are rushing her son to a trama center because he has had a serious head injury. All night long we did not know if he was going to live of die. He cracked his scull open and there was bleeding on the brain. And they thought he broke a vertebrae in his neck. Luckily he survived, but now he can not play any sports this year(its his senoir yr) and he is permanently deaf in his right ear, and part of his tongue is paralyzed. Tell your son, these people who he thinks are his friends really aren't.
The kids at this party where more concerned with who was going to get introuble than getting an ambulance for my newphew. Anyway my heart goes out to you, I can only imagine what you are going through...this whole this with my newphew has taken atleast 10yrs off of my sisters life. All my kids are young and looking around in this world I wish they could just stay that way. Hang in there and do everything you can to NOT let your son quit school, years from now he will thank you. Hopefully it will not take a tragedy like my newphews to "wake him up".

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September 19, 2000
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ttsal:
I have a 19 yr old son who is going thru a sort of 'meltdown' with traffic tickets, shoplifting, pot, and just anger. I am very anxious, and try to keep in touch with him each day. He has finished high school but has no direction now. My cousin, who is a Capt in the AirForce wants to speak with him, but he hasn't wanted to call him. I don't want to push my son away. He is working and paying his bills (owes me some $ for car ins.) He owes the attorney $500, plus restitution for what he took. He is very angry about this and shuts me out when I try to talk to him. The anxiety is getting to me, and I am barely able to function...I'm starting therapy (again) this week.

September 19, 2000
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Lena I suggest tough love to you, but with the 16 year old, it may be to late roping in a wild stallion, but the fiends and clothes must go, and if he doesn't cooperate change schools. Got to know the enemy, schedule every minuet of his day, as he reproves him self, he gets more freedom, it doesn't take long to loose them these days, and it is sad, they ask us for the boundry lines, while kicking and screaming all the way, sounds like your son, maybe slightly spoiled, took it all for granted, and found a bunch of welcome home bums, it is so easy to gravitate to the lowest level, and sadly with so many broken homes and drugs out there there are allot of angry kids. Good luck

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