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And I THANKED HIM?? what the hell
January 23, 2005
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Hey guys Im here, just stopped by work to get my paper done, NO CONTACT thus far, and it feels good sometimes I miss him that is why I posted she will be loved so I can reread that when I do, and I can post more stuff as well as anyone else who needs to post.

DTEE- how are YOU doing? I hope things are okay with you and you have a great weeeknd and are having fun.

Art- thanks sweetie, I am okay and hanging in there surprisingly, I just have to remember all the shit, before I ever think again that I was such a fuck up in this and it was all my fault.

January 23, 2005
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Good for you aces.....Hang in there. I have had zero contact w/ her as well. I know what you mean when you say it feels good but sometimes you miss him. Remember you don't miss the bullshit and thats 90% of the relationship. You are going to make it....you will be loved....PEACE

January 24, 2005
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DTEE- just checking in to see how you are doing this wonderful monday morning? I am tired, but that is alright. Can you believe how easy it is to forget all the crappiness when you really want to see the person and how easy it is to internalize it all as your fault? Well at least that is what I do at times. I think that is why at least in this period I need constant reaffirmation that he truly was just a dick.

BTW- I don't know a lot about what happened in your relationship if you ever want to tell me I'm here.

January 24, 2005
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Hey Aces,
How did you hold up over the weekend?

-Cactus

January 24, 2005
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I made it, I had some weak points when I missed him and thought things were better than they really were, but so far so good.

How are you doing?

Where's Starry at? I hope she is doing alright.

January 24, 2005
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Aces....Glad to hear you are doing well and that you made it through the weekend. I am doing pretty well. I did speak to her this morning. Haven't talked to her for 2 1/2 weeks. She left me a message saying she needed to talk to me. She sounded kind of mad? I called her back and she just wanted to know what I was doing. She said she had some of my things and wanted to return them. That she wanted to respect my wishes and wondered how she could return them. She suggested a mutual friend. I told her she could drop them on my doorstep. No need to get others involved. She then invited me to her birthday party. I told her thanks but no thanks. I believe this is just her angling to get back in. She is out of town right now and I know she has finally started to think about the things I told her when I let her know I was done. We'll see if this starts her bullshit again? It's weird....I kind of like that she's hurting but I don't really want to talk to her or get back together with her. If her pattern stays the same she will be calling more this week and want to rehash everything. I don't want to so I guess I will just ignore her calls. Glad you are doing well though.....PEACE

January 24, 2005
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WOW- the call, well I will say congratualtions on handling it so well. ESPECIALLY turning down the B-day party that must have been hard. I think Men are stronger than women when it comes to this. I bet she will start calling more, will you talk to her? I still am so proud of you for how you handled it, that took a lot of strength. If Mr .Jack does call me, which I don't think he will, I hope I am able to have that strength my bet is that I won't even answer the phone that way I won't have to worry about it.

So why did you break up with her?

January 24, 2005
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If I were you I wouldn't answer any calls from him for the month period we talked about. If he calls after the month you would be in a much stronger position to talk with him. As far as why I broke up with her...We've been up and down for the last few years. I think she has some narcisistic (sp?) qualities. She has pretty much been all about her. I broke things off with her in August. I let her back in so to speak...we did a lot together however were seeing other people. She has a lot of drama...almost like she thrives on it. anyway she has weird patterns too her life. The relationship with me had the same patterns. I am in a position in life right now that I need to focus on work and take advantage of some opportunities I have. I would love to have a relationship with someone but it needs to be a healthy one. I don't have that with her so I needed to move on. A few times during the holidays I was made to be fool by her to some of our friends and her family. That was the last straw for me. She like to have her cake and eat it to....Know what I mean? She always puts herself in the spotlight, always pretends to do great things and always drops the ball. She has some great qualities, thats what makes it hard to walk away. But I think I will find someone with great qualities and not deal with all the drama....I know the pattern is starting again with her. I don't really know if I will talk to her when she calls. I think I will tell her the stuff she has of mine isn't that important and she can throw it away, keep it or give it to charity. I don't need that stuff. She's had it for a long time now. The good thing is that I know now I will tell her whats on my mind. I won't sugar coat anything with her ever again. I have a hard time expressing myself. I hate upsetting people. Been that way my whole life....but that is changing....thats a story for later maybe. Well thats the jest of it. Feels good to express it. Thanks for asking. I hope this creates more questions from you....talk to you soon.....PEACE

January 24, 2005
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WOW- it's too bad when you realize that the person you care about just isn't the right one no matter how much you try. I am sorry that this happened to you. I know how hard it is. I guess with me Mr. Jack would say I was your ex and he was you. There is a huge part of me though that cannot accept being called a whore and slut, and treated as such. I guess in the end you had 10% that was good and when I look at it, I had maybe 1% that was good. It was a hard relationship and I just wonder why I am so easily able to forget all the bad things because I felt that deep down I just brought out that crap in him. I still do to some extent. I can say well if I didn't have guys as friends, if I didn't hang out with those guy friends, if I always answered my phone.

I watched this movie Angel eyes this weekend where the guy said that people's brains sometimes smell out other people's brains. I think we attract certain people and in the end, that makes it worse to walk away. I still sometimes feel like we went through all of that crap to make us stronger, and then I think well what crap did Mr. Jack really go through. The crap that he couldn't control me.

I admire you for being able to walk away from something negative, it wasn't until Mr. Jack basically wasn't there when I really did need him that made me walk away, but not because I wanted to, but because I realized he didn't care.

I am glad you can walk away knowing she cared for you in some sense.

BTW I am glad you aren't going to talk to her anymore, I agree with you that I should NOT talk to Mr. Jack for the month we have given me. Besides that I asked him to not be in my life for that long, if he really did care than he would respect that and let me be so we shall see what happens.

I really do like talking with you (or writing), so thank you.

January 24, 2005
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Aces...You sound like you are in a good place. I am proud of you. Keep it up. I would love to discuss my situation more with you. I will try to post a thread when I have some time to really think through my situation and get it down in words. Stay your course you are doing great.....PEACE

January 24, 2005
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DTEE- I would like to really hear your situation and feel kinda honored that you want to share it with me, so when you are ready I will be here, and even if you want to talk besides that I will be here.

I think she doesn't know what she lost.

January 24, 2005
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Thanks Aces.....I would love to have someone to share this with. Would love a womans point of view. I think we all get into situations where we make mistakes and don't know what we have until we lose it. I'll reach out soon......PEACE

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