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Am I wrong for finally speaking up
May 31, 2010
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Double Trouble
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When I was younger I was molested , plus some of my other siblings was to by two people in my family . We tried telling when we was younger but no one believed us . Well this past one I just found out that one of my siblings was actually raped at very young age , now all the memories that I put away is coming back , I learned to deal with it my whole life and not let it bother me . But now it is since I found out what actually happened to the younger one of us , so I felt like I owed it to her to say something to the rest of the family , now they all hate us and threating to get me for harrasment . Is that right ? We did nothing wrong , we was the victims , the truth should be known , yea maybe we should have said something after we moved out of the house , but we was ashamed , but I'm not now , because I did nothing wrong , So what should I do now knowing the younger was actually raoed at a young age , but she is older now , we all 3 are alot older now . Should we let it go ?

May 31, 2010
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Hi DT,

Hope you are working with a counselor to help guide you through this serious situation.

Perhaps the siblings can get together and see where they want to go from here. It would be great if you pressed on because it's likely this person has repeated the behavior.

Be ready because if you do tell, family members will have all kinds of reactions. If you don't tell, how do you come to terms with that?

May 31, 2010
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I know I lost all my family when i spoke up about it, but if someone can hate me for speaking the truth, they know about and demonize me, then they are not someone I should be around, family or not...

When I spoke up about ONE uncle, there were many more, much closer to me too....my parents and my sister spewed hatred towards me, when I moved back to the area in which I grew up, my relatives no longer invited me to their homes, no exteneed family wants to see me or my family..which tells me something bout them, which is not good....they are doing me a huge FAVOR..

A friend of mine recently told me bout her niece who had stabbed her dad in the arm with a pen...when she claimed he tried to rape her and that her mom was there and knew bout it...she ran away from home and now her entire family hates her too, very familiar to me...mmmm. I can see my friends side but I also can see how her niece feels, she is only 14.

She ran away from home and how did her parents react? They threw away all her belongings, except for her bed and a pillow and some essential things, they took everything and sent it to the garbage...now this reactions tells me ALOT...and I am afraid now I see that maybe her niece might be right, their reaction was very TELLING!

My friend and I no longer talk bout this, I can't cause of what I been through....it triggers me alot, even posting on here can hurt me, depending on my state of mind and how detailed things are....

But on one hand, this can be healing maybe? I see I am not alone as often as I feel too and maybe others who read this post and others too, that they too are not alone or crazy as well...

One thing molestors is try to make their victims look like liars, spoiled and kooky...its textbook behavior, so when I see the oh she is a liar line, I get tensed cause I begin to see something "famiiliar".

May 31, 2010
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Double Trouble,
You will know what the right thing to do for you is. Then, it won't matter what anyone else thinks. Anyone you lose in the process of being true to yourself really doesn't deserve to be part of your life.

I am so sorry for your suffering. It was wrong that it happened. It is wrong that you aren't getting the support you need. Their responses are more about them than you.

You are not alone.

bonni

June 1, 2010
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Thank You all for listening to me , I have made my mind up and told my father he is no longer welcome in my life or my children's life untill he comes to the terms of defending his daughters against his step sons , that did the horrible things they did to us when we was younger . I'm just nervous about trying to push the issues with the police or anything , what if they don't believe us . I can tell them details , where it happened , when it happened , what that low life scum did to us . It's a shame that a grown ass man can look at a child , and do the things he does then turn around and have children of his own . i actually feel better talking to you guys , I really appreciate you gys taking the time to read this . I have to do something if not I will ruin my kids life , because I'm so strict with them scared to let them stay with people , thinking something will happen to them , I don't trust anyone around them and thats not right to them or me . I wish I would have spoken up again many years ago , but instead when I was able to leave the home I moved far far away from my family . once again Thank you Guys and GOD BLESS YOU ALL 🙂

June 2, 2010
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Its better to keep your kids away than to have something happen...I speak from experience here...

I am glad you are protecting your children from your father...I have no proof and even if I did report all the people who hurt me...

No one would believe me and there are too many people, some were from an church we attended, these people are untouchable...

I think for me, I had to just move on, cut these people out and do it for once and for all and for good...

So many people are predatory in life, so many you never think would be...I do not blame you for being scared...

I have few people in my life, for good reason, I am glad that I have little friends and people around to hurt me...I rather be alone than risk being abused...

People need to earn your trust, that takes ALOT of time, sobeit...by doing that you teach your child and you reteach yourself, selflove...

May 31, 2010
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When
I was younger I was molested , plus some of my other siblings was
to by two people in my family . We tried telling when we was
younger but no one believed us . Well this past one I just found
out that one of my siblings was actually raped at very young age ,
now all the memories that I put away is coming back , I learned to
deal with it my whole life and not let it bother me . But now it is
since I found out what actually happened to the younger one of us ,
so I felt like I owed it to her to say something to the rest of the
family , now they all hate us and threating to get me for
harrasment . Is that right ? We did nothing wrong , we was the
victims , the truth should be known , yea maybe we should have said
something after we moved out of the house , but we was ashamed ,
but I'm not now , because I did nothing wrong , So what should I do
now knowing the younger was actually raoed at a young age , but she
is older now , we all 3 are alot older now . Should we let it go
?

May 31, 2010
12:00 am
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Hi
DT,

Hope you are
working with a counselor to help guide you through this serious
situation.

Perhaps the
siblings can get together and see where they want to go from here.
It would be great if you pressed on because it's likely this person
has repeated the behavior.

Be ready because
if you do tell, family members will have all kinds of reactions. If
you don't tell, how do you come to terms with that?

May 31, 2010
12:00 am
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BAREFOOTGIRL
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I
know I lost all my family when i spoke up about it, but if someone
can hate me for speaking the truth, they know about and demonize
me, then they are not someone I should be around, family or
not...

When I spoke up
about ONE uncle, there were many more, much closer to me too....my
parents and my sister spewed hatred towards me, when I moved back
to the area in which I grew up, my relatives no longer invited me
to their homes, no exteneed family wants to see me or my
family..which tells me something bout them, which is not
good....they are doing me a huge FAVOR..

A friend of mine
recently told me bout her niece who had stabbed her dad in the arm
with a pen...when she claimed he tried to rape her and that her mom
was there and knew bout it...she ran away from home and now her
entire family hates her too, very familiar to me...mmmm. I can see
my friends side but I also can see how her niece feels, she is only
14.

She ran away from
home and how did her parents react? They threw away all her
belongings, except for her bed and a pillow and some essential
things, they took everything and sent it to the garbage...now this
reactions tells me ALOT...and I am afraid now I see that maybe her
niece might be right, their reaction was very TELLING!

My friend and I no
longer talk bout this, I can't cause of what I been through....it
triggers me alot, even posting on here can hurt me, depending on my
state of mind and how detailed things are....

But on one hand,
this can be healing maybe? I see I am not alone as often as I feel
too and maybe others who read this post and others too, that they
too are not alone or crazy as well...

One thing
molestors is try to make their victims look like liars, spoiled and
kooky...its textbook behavior, so when I see the oh she is a liar
line, I get tensed cause I begin to see something
"famiiliar".

May 31, 2010
12:00 am
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Double Trouble, You will know what the right thing to do for
you is. Then, it won't matter what anyone else thinks. Anyone you
lose in the process of being true to yourself really doesn't
deserve to be part of your life.

I am so sorry for
your suffering. It was wrong that it happened. It is wrong that you
aren't getting the support you need. Their responses are more about
them than you.

You are not
alone.

bonni

June 1, 2010
12:00 am
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Double Trouble
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Thank
You all for listening to me , I have made my mind up and told my
father he is no longer welcome in my life or my children's life
untill he comes to the terms of defending his daughters against his
step sons , that did the horrible things they did to us when we was
younger . I'm just nervous about trying to push the issues with the
police or anything , what if they don't believe us . I can tell
them details , where it happened , when it happened , what that low
life scum did to us . It's a shame that a grown ass man can look at
a child , and do the things he does then turn around and have
children of his own . i actually feel better talking to you guys ,
I really appreciate you gys taking the time to read this . I have
to do something if not I will ruin my kids life , because I'm so
strict with them scared to let them stay with people , thinking
something will happen to them , I don't trust anyone around them
and thats not right to them or me . I wish I would have spoken up
again many years ago , but instead when I was able to leave the
home I moved far far away from my family . once again Thank you
Guys and GOD BLESS YOU ALL 🙂

June 2, 2010
12:00 am
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Its
better to keep your kids away than to have something happen...I
speak from experience here...

I am glad you are
protecting your children from your father...I have no proof and
even if I did report all the people who hurt me...

No one would
believe me and there are too many people, some were from an church
we attended, these people are untouchable...

I think for me, I
had to just move on, cut these people out and do it for once and
for all and for good...

So many people are
predatory in life, so many you never think would be...I do not
blame you for being scared...

I have few people
in my life, for good reason, I am glad that I have little friends
and people around to hurt me...I rather be alone than risk being
abused...

People need to
earn your trust, that takes ALOT of time, sobeit...by doing that
you teach your child and you reteach yourself,
selflove...

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