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Am I the only one who hates my job?
October 16, 2006
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luvnlife
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I work in a correctional enviorment. Sixty diffrent personalities I deal with on a constant basis, eight hours staight. The fights between them, the arguments between us, the stealing, the manipulating, the lying...Please don't get me wrong, I don't feel that they are any less human than me. I love everyone and I don't focus on thier crimes. But being with so many ofthem all day long makes me not feel very loving. All day they sit in a recreational room about half the size or a gymnasium and act out. It's loud in there, they constantly ask questions even if you've already explained the answer.And they don't understand the word "no." Every thing is an issue and there's alot of drama. Not all of them, but 90 percent. Sometimes on my off days I may go to the doctor or run errands. I find myself studying the people at the front desk and thinking to myself,they just don't know how good they have it. Peace and quiet, no chaos, a great schedule... they have no idea.They say that I'm mean ( but they also say that about everyone who does their job), but sometimes I wonder-Am I? Or is this just not the right job for me. I don't mean to offend or judge anyone who has ever been to jail, but working there is getting the best of me. I'm trying to find something else, but in the meantime I need help. This gig is driving me nuts!

October 16, 2006
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I don't have any advice really, just wanted to share with you and let you know my thoughts. My sister worked in corrections at one time and it really took a toll on her. She really changed as a person because of the stuff she heard, saw, had to put up with, etc. I commend you for doing that job, because I know I couldn't and someone has to, right? But you do have a right to question whether it's right for you. Not everyone is cut out for something like that and it might do you some good once you do find something else and move on. There aren't too many people I know who really LOVE their jobs, but it helps if you at least like it a little, don't you think?

October 16, 2006
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I think that no matter what our job is there are days that we hate it. Listening to you describe your job, I had to chuckle, that sounds like my job some days, and I am a stay at home mom.( I have four kids) I am NOT trying to make light of your job, especially since that is what I want to do. Just remember that the grass is always greener on the other side. No matter what you do after this, there will be days that you hate it. You are not alone. I am sorry that you are feeling this frustration. You are not being mean, it is just the way that you see it. It always looks easier from the outside though. Just remember that.

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October 16, 2006
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October 16, 2006
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Thanks Scared and Loving. This is taking a toll me also. You know, I don't even have to find a job I love, just one that I don't hate so much. The grass looks really green on the other side right about now, but I know that there is no perfect job. Four kids! Wow! I see what you mean. It's very comforting to know that you can relate with four children. I'm hanging in there and some day soon I'll be able to chuckle at it too.

October 16, 2006
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The hardest time for my H and me, (well maybe one of the hardest times)was when he worked the jail systems, for 4 yrs. It was one of the most stressful for me at home. He didn't realize how it was affecting him until he was transfered out. Stress builds up and you don't realize it.

Can be very difficult there are so many variabales that you have to know, which are rival gang members, who is fighting who, they get in your face, they are already in jail so for them it doesn't matter what they do, they are already there.

I'm sorry I can't be of help but, you do have a very stressful job, you can only do that type of work for so long, IMO.

October 16, 2006
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Thank you armyleo, that helps me more than you know. For a while I've been thinking maybe its me. Maybe the job is stressful because I'm not a people person. But hearing from you and from loving mom who had a sister that worked in the jails, it is becoming a realilty to me that I do have a hard job. It is not just me, but the job is stressful. I don't want that kind of strain on my loved ones. I also have noticed a change in me. However, its a good change. I am more assertive and confident. I've been a shy and withdrawn person all of my life until now. But that's enough. All the other changes that I have are negative. I find myself saying things to and about people that are just plain cold (not me). I've been doing this for five years now and I've had enough.

October 16, 2006
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Yes, 5 years is a long time, and it affects loved ones without realizing it. I didn't even realize how it had affected us, until he transfered out. It started to get ugly, and we didn't realize it, because we were in the middle of it.

There are not too many people who join certain police departments, because one of the requirements, are working the jail system for the first 2-4 years.

Good luck if you decide to find something new.

Assertiveness and confident are good...not all of us have that, some of us are shy & withdrawn. (like me)

October 16, 2006
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I don't know if this counts, but I hate my job as a student right now because I have nothing in common with anyone in any of my classes. It sux and I am so prepared to quit, but at the same time I am so close to graduating. I have to and it sux and I am tired all the time because I am not doing what I love. But I guess it is just what has to be done.

October 16, 2006
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Loverbee,

The more I think about it, it doesn't matter what it is, if you don't have some degree of love for it, you won't enjoy it, period. Why not have a job we love? I mean if you need to work, why not have a job that works for you as well. I think it should be our goal to do something we enjoy. It will be good for the job itself as well as us.

October 16, 2006
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Hi luvnlife,

I empathasize with you and admire you for being able to take an honest look and see what this job is doing to you.

I agree that it is very stressful and I would caution you to take care that you don't let it get to you to the point that you become worse than those you are in charge of.

I've seen it happen more often than the average person might think.

I wish you the best of luck and in the meantime....try to spend your down time doing things that you really enjoy....hopefully it will help.

Take care,
Lolli

October 16, 2006
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luvnlife, I work in the same type of atmosphere. I have changed drastically.

Hang in there. I am currently searching for another job. Take it easy.

October 17, 2006
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Your job definately affects your outlook on life and can change you. When I was an animal cruelty investigator I became very depressed and really started hating everyone- assuming the worst and looking for it to the point of often missing the more positive aspects of others. I only did this for less than a year before I moved on.

Staying there for 5 years definately reflects your strength and integretiy to withstand a lot of chaos and hostility. I think it would wear on anyone. I don't think there is a thing wrong with you- if anything you are stronger in this respect than the average person.

I would encourage you to search for another job. Hopefully you will find one that provides a healing and nuturing environment- but even just one that takes less of a toll on you would be good.

I have a great job and love what I do which has contributed greatly to my current ability to work on healing myself as a person. I am no longer doing damamge control from issues at work- I can now see my current situation in a better light and repair years of damamge.

I wish you luck. I found my current job through my volunteer work. I am a public relations/volunteer coordinator at a nature center. For years, while working other jobs, I volunteered a few hours a week at my local nature center or animal shelter. This was something I loved and just kept applying for openings in these two fields throughout the country. I got hired here 2 1/2 years ago (moved across the country) and have loved it ever since (not to say I don't have bad days- but overall it is good).

I hope that you find a better job soon.

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