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Am I sick?
February 26, 2008
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Ocean Mist969
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I found this place because I wanta talk to somebody. I can afford a pychiatrist or spychologist but I first want to get opinions. I have been with my husband for 3 yr now he is loving & senssative to me we get along perfect most times. I love him. we both have good jobs make a decsent living. He is very handsome has a great body. Sometimes we have sex with other people at the same time we have sex with each other I mean. He likes to watch me have sex with other women & other men. He likes to touch me & feel my skin & hold my brasts watch my face when I come with another man because he says it fassinates him. he says I look beautiful when I am coming that my skin glows dark pink & he likes me to suck him sometimes when I am coming form another man or a woman. I like to have sex with women because they are so good at oral and can suck my nipples the best way. they touch my privarte places best & they get me more ready for him & when Im ready I explode. I love to have him in me & give another man oral you know sucking & the man stroking & sucking my breasts. I like to watch him giving it to a woman it excites me becuz I know he is mine. I like to be a part of it exccite that woman more and more while he is in her. I like kissing her & rubbing her so she comes harder & he comes harder too. We only do this on the weekends at parties stuff like that. Sometimes I dream about it & come & I wake up so wet. When its just me & him its good too. Heis big but gentle & satisfies me all by himself & we use vibrators & do other stuff to come over & over & over. He does it real slow so it lasts along time. There is a friends couple that wants to move in and rent our attic apartment she is so nice sweet & cute has a great body & her husband is nice too. he looks ok. He looks betterwith his clothes off if you catch my drift he has hidden gifts. we have been with them before they like the same things like we like to do everyone gets along. We have gone out with them before to movies and dinner. My husband checked them out they check out clean no criminal background anything like that. He got refernces from other landlords. If they move in we will have more money but even better we can play wheever we want it. I wasexcited when I told a friend about this she told me I was very sick & I needed to get help. I didnt think I was sick. I dont know very much about other peoples business in the bedroom what they do & all. I only had one bf in school we were young our parents or teachers were always around when we did get to do it it was fast and furious. Then i was married for 4 yrs he drank too much couldnt never keep a job so I left him. I never had energy for sex being married to him. so I don't have much experience I never talked about this befor. I know theres people that rather just stick to one person but thats their choice right? I love my husband & he loves me and takes care of my needs he protects me & my sex life is very exciting. Am I sick? Are all of us that like doing this sick?

February 26, 2008
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No, I do not think you are sick. You and your husband are adults, and can choose to do whatever you like sexually. I think that perhaps, what you are doing is not typical but that does not make it sick.

You involve yourself with couples who have the same sexual interests as you and your husband. You are not forcing anyone to participate who does not care to.

To be honest, I found that you shared a bit TOO much information in your post. But that is just my feeling. No one forced me to continue reading it.

SO again, to answer you original question AM I SICK?, no, I do not believe that you are.

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February 26, 2008
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Ocean- sounds like you and your husband like what you are doing so I dont see any problem there. For support you might want to check out a sight for SWINGERS.

February 26, 2008
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Boundaries were crossed here. Your own practices are your own, but I don't need to read sexually explicit descriptions.

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February 26, 2008
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ocean,

after reading your thread, here is my opinion.

as long as you and your husband are both comfortable with this situation, then i think there is nothing wrong with it.

are you happy? truely happy? is he happy? truely happy?

If your relationhip is happy, and you both are okay with your sexual lifestyle, then I say, go for it.

autumn

February 26, 2008
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Ocean Mist,

Yes, I agree with Through the Fire.

I posted immediately after I read your thread. However, after thinking about it a bit more, I felt very uneasy about what you had written.

You could have stated your problem without all the unnecessary graphic details.

I still feel your sexual activiites with your husband are your own business. But your overly detailed description of your encounters did cross the line.

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February 26, 2008
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Ocean Mist,

Why so many details? Did you feel a need to disclose everything so readers could give an informed response to your question?

I hope it goes without saying that you need to be careful about STDs with this lifestyle choice - more partners, more risk.

And if you get emotionally involved with this couple, be prepared for complications - especially if your husband gets too close for your comfort to someone else.

No, I don't think you're sick, but I encourage you to be careful about everyone's feelings, including yours.

Mary

February 26, 2008
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Is this a hoax?

February 26, 2008
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Sad, Through the Fire, Autumn, Mary and Pressing- This is obiviously a Troll. Look at the nick name with a 69 at the end. The post reads like something from a porno magazine. Might want to refer this to the Site Coordinator and with any luck get it removed. If it looks like BS and sounds like BS probably is BS

February 26, 2008
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IMO, it is sad to expect that this would be a troll. If it is indeed a troll, they still need our support. If not, then we need to support. It isn't our place to make that guess.

Ocean Mist, what you do in your bedroom is your business. I don't think you are sick at all. You are fine, you have the right to do as you wish. As long as it is something that you and your husband are happy with, then so be it.

Best of luck to you...

The rest of you who felt that this was too much information, had every right to quit reading. There is nothing stating that we can't post certain things....

You all made me incomfortable with your statements, and suggestions. I am offended that any one of you felt you had the right to judge someone who comes here looking for support.

February 27, 2008
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Hey Folks,

I think we need to give ocean mist the benefit of any doubts we might have until proven completely otherwise. And that goes for any new visitors that arrive here.

The nature of the site and threads themselves can attact all kinds of folks in all kinds of life situations. Just because someone lives very differently than ourselves or speaks/interacts differently than we ourselves do, does not make them suspect.

Everyone in life, needs to be heard and needs support. And not everyone who first arrives here will ask for that support via the guidelines - but that doesn't mean they don't belong here.

Thanks, Site Coordinator

February 27, 2008
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Should this thread be moved over to the Lib side?

February 27, 2008
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If you were my daughter, I would be deeply concerned and attempt to help you. Lust and love are NOT the same. Sexual contact is NOT genuine intimacy. I hope someone helps you to learn the difference. I also found the intitial posting to have TMI. It was "graphic." You have every right to post it, but the undersigned chose to skip large segments of it, once I got the jist of your input.

Standard wedding vows include the promise to "forsake all others." To me, that would include having any sex partner, other than your wedded spouse.

- Ma Strong

February 27, 2008
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Well I will say it, yes it's sick that you posted so many details. I felt like I was reading a post from a teenage boy that thought this would be a good prank to pull on this site. Yes boundaries were crossed, no I did not read the entire post, it was degrading and I can establish my own boundaries. If you are really in this sort of relationship and you are truly happy with it, then why even post on this site. You obviously don't need anyone telling you if you're doing something sick, your post says it all.

February 27, 2008
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I understand what the site coordinator is saying and I understand that we all express our selves in different ways. I was expressing my self as well.

February 27, 2008
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I saw red flags when I read the post, like "is this for real?"

February 27, 2008
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I feel like I need a shower after reading that. I wish I could "unread" it. TMI indeed.

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February 27, 2008
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I saw red flags as well. I understand we need to give people the benefit, but lets not be nieave here either. use common sense. use what your gut tells you and dont second guess it. and one sense I get is that this is a guy getting some satisfaction by posting this.

I believe if this were a real question, the poster would had been able to ask it without such detail. just my opinion.

If they were unable to do that - then yes, they are sick and need help.

February 27, 2008
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i meant - if they WERENT able to do that -( post without such detail) then yes they are sick.

February 27, 2008
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Hi. I'm so sorry that I offended everyone. I talked to some other freinds abpout this & they showed me how I was being too over sensative to what one person says.
Everyone - thank you for the advise & i am sorry I was rude. I didnt mean to harm & Im very sorry I talked too much. I wont let it happen again. I do too much talking I know. The one freind said I was sick& needed help so I immedately started looking for counseling & thats how I found this place. I guess i just take things to heart to much. iF I had only kept it to myself in the first place maybe none of this would have happened. I run off at the mouth too much I know. I feel bad. Im so sorry for crossing boundaries& TMI thats not thinking about anyone but myself& thats terrible. I promise it wont happen again i just wanted to come back one more to say Im very very sorry I offended & hurt you guys. I never wanted that.

February 27, 2008
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I think you all missed the part where the site coordinator said SUPPORT. Along with giving the benefit of the doubt. Not one of us had to read that. But, now that you have, you are going to complain about it?? Whose choice was it to read it?? Give me a break.

It isn't up to anyone here to decide what information someone should give in order to receive support.

Ocean Mist, I hope you don't leave over this. You are being heard. Some people need something to complain about all of the time, some of us are really here to listen and support.

I still stand by I don't think you are sick. I also, having been in a situation similar to yours and I understand. I don't think that I am sick. I think that some people just choose things different than others. I couldn't do what your chosing all of the time, however, if that is what you and your husband want and are comfortable with, more power to you.

I am still here listening, if you are willing to come back out and talk.

February 27, 2008
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AT first I thought this was a joke...but again, it may not be.

Ocean, what you do is your business, and if you and your hubby are fine with "swinging" then so be it.

You don't need anyones approval to do this, you are both adults.

and yes, you may have given "too much info" on your post, but that is your choice, you came here for help & support.

do what it best for you & your hubby and not worry what others think, esp if you & hubby agree to sex with others.

February 27, 2008
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Ocean Mist,

I think I would really consider deeply what your own thoughts are towards the situation. The fact that you came to this site to express some of your thoughts may indeed stem from a sense of you not truly feeling so well about what you are doing.

On the outside you say its fine, you really enjoy it, but there is a part of you that is concerned about what you are doing and may be the very reason you are asking the question...Am I Sick...

This is something that you may want to consider looking into for yourself.
Are you truly happy with your present lifestyle or are you afraid of the results if you decided that this is really not truly making you happy? Perhaps for awhile it seemed to be great but now you are sensing that it is not really filling a void within.

Does what you are doing really make you happy or do you do it for other uknown reasons?

If you are doubting I would certainly look into talking to a professional about it. They will be able to view your situation without bias, which may not be the case with others.

Keep talking and sharing your concerns. We don't have all the answers but may give advice that you could use at this time.

Pressing

February 27, 2008
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Ocean,

What you described doesn't mean that you are sick. If you are as happy and content with your life; nothing you described is illegal, or wrong.

I think so many reacted here from a religious and cultural point of view, and are usually much nicer people than they are acting like today.

It is not my place, or theirs, to judge you. If your desription was too graphic for anyone here then I think that they are forgetting that each and everyone of them are adults and have had SEX and it is not dirty, or wrong; If they believe it is wrong for them to have sex with more than one partner they are judging.

This is not a religious site, but a place where real people come with real problems to get input and advice. (It is not just someone's opinion when they personally attack another human; just becase he/she is different.)

Katzndogs, perhaps a shower would do you good right now; you can feel good about yourself for lashing out in that way. Talk about a speedy trial and conviction!

Cary

February 27, 2008
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I don't think the majority here believes that sex is dirty or wrong. I think many were not used to the descriptive adjectives that were used like "nipples" or "suck," etc. The description was quite vivid and some may be too shy by the use of language. I don't think it was the content per se.

I have only been posting since October, and most of the posts are a bit more emotional rather than sexually descriptive. With the internet, one never knows if a troll has entered the building..which happens so often when people are trying to hammer out their feelings.

Just a thought...

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