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Am I really going overboard?
October 18, 2006
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Rasputin
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I worked temporarily as a receptionist in a confectionary company where the female co-worker who trained me was burn-out. She gave me stressful time & was accusing me of so many mistakes till I really became stressed out & started to make mistakes. However, I am surprised how the manager & his wife would keep such an employee who even refuses to seek help or admit she has a problem. Out of love, I reached out to this co-worker & told her in a loving tone that she needed help & we all would need help at any time in out life. I also brought her a book about how to manage her emotions which I used for my own journey, even tho I did not show it to her. I showed it to another co-worker who told me that I was going overboard. Is my behaviour unprofessional? I am really going over-board?

Mind you, this company works with customer service & is appearance-oriented. This burn out woman was treating me unfairly while she was very kind with others. Could it be because I was employed temp & thru a placement agency? Is it professional to keep employing someone who is burn-out & worse who refuses to seek help for his emotional/mental problems & even does not look very presentable?

Thanks so much in advance!

~Ras~

October 18, 2006
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Looks like the manager and his wife don't care about her appearance or her negative attitude towards you.
She may feel threatned because you are there. Maybe the manager and his wife will see what a good job you are doing and figure out you are the better worker. Your co-worker must sense this, there for pointing out your mistakes makes her feel secure with her job.
I would not try and help her, she doesn't sound like someone who will accept help.
Keep doing a good job, and know that this is temp and you won't have to deal with this person forever.

Atalose

~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

October 18, 2006
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wow poor you!!!
ok best you focus on yourself and work.
but find another job if place really stresses you.
your mental health is too important and that place is breeding ground for mental disorder of any kind.

October 19, 2006
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Hi Ras. I think in my opinion since you are the temp and the new person that often in work environments that the old timers get kept on even though they are not as good and the temp are often treated a little more separate since obviously they will come and go. It sounds to me that she resents you and is avoiding you. It might be affecting her ego that perhaps she is feeling bad that you appear much more eager about your job and she is stressed. Also the fact that you are pointed out her problems to her and it may be well intended by you but maybe she sees it as you suggest to her that she has emotional problems. Even though some of us know we have emotional problems, we don't always like to hear that we have a problem especially from a coworker; it can easily offend someone. And giving her a book on emotions management (also can be taken as anger management since anger is an emotion) would mostly set off anyone that has a problem or not. Please do not be offended by what I have said, but sometimes people take things very personal and workplace is such a place that you have to be careful.

October 19, 2006
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Thanks all for your responses.

Taj: I did not suggest to her in a bad way. She was really treating me very badly and I had to protect myself from her and b/c I am a passionate person, it broke my heart to find her like that.

I strongly believe we are our brothers and sisters keepers.

Smart people are humble and they like to learn from others.

If a co-worker pointed out that to me I would be thankful for him for ever. In fact I would consider myself the happiest woman in the world.

We are need help at anytime in our life.

I pointed out to her that I used to be workaholic and showed her the book I used to change. I don't see anything condescending in that.

Speaking the truth is love a blessing!

October 20, 2006
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Today was my last day. I left this company proudly and joyfully. I did not even shake hands with the manager and his wife. I did not even purchase any candy from the store, even tho I was planning since Halloween is just around the corner. I'd rather spend my $$$ for something/someone more noble than those jerks.

Looking back at the positive side, I enjoyed this short period even tho I ended it very quickly - it was from this week up to end of Nov or even Dec - due to the toxic unhealthy atmosphere of its staff. I was surrounded by the smell of candy and sweets since the factory and the store were inside the company. It just an exhilirating experience to walk inside an office with the smell of chocolate and cocoa butter and sweets.

Ironically this company manufactures something very sweet, beautiful and desirable whereas it contains very toxic, unhealthy, mentally ill folks who are in denial about their life.

Let me give you a synopsis about this 1 week I worked there: I would be sitting in the reception office and each time the mentally-ill woman walks down the corridor, it would feel like a horror movie. She would make a noise with her heal and it would really feel scary just like watching a horror movie!

I cannot believe the amount of jealousy and knife-stabbing from the this receptionist and the payroll woman toward me. Worse, how the manager's wife backed them & believed them. It was horrendous!!!

I loved the wonderful, kind and warm people who worked in the factory.....and enjoyed eating chocolate almost daily for FREE!!!! Bingo!

~Ras~

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