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Am I Doing Enough For Now?
August 3, 2009
6:50 pm
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mia 1234
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I have not called my alcoholic ex, i have not drank .Dont seem to have much energy,sleeping alot, and not alot of interest in anything . I am taking things easy after all the turmoil. Do i need to be doing more ,or am i doing enough for now by having no contact with him. I see my councillor weekly. Are my feelings normal? OR am i setting myself up for a fall by not doing more.

August 3, 2009
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you seem to be doing ok, making the *no contact* is most important. And you probably will go thru the ups and downs with feelings, missing the good times, but always remember the bad times too, they were probably more often. And yes, seeing your counselor weekly is great. If you ever feel down & out, just post here, I think venting and talking helps out alot. Keep up the good work!

August 4, 2009
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HELLO CAMER, thank u for replying, i looked at it first thing after getting out of bed, i needed to be told im doing ok. CAMER there were no good times with him ,WHY did i go there? I was severely abused as a child,it was like been abused all over again. I will keep posting , i need all the help i can get to get through this. I read alot of posts , i dont reply too often, i havent much confidence in myself right now .

August 4, 2009
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Dear Mia,
I agree with Camer that you are doing ok. It makes sense that you would feel really tired. It takes alot of energy to break contact.

At some point, you may feel restless. That's when you may be in the most danger of making contact. You might think about things you might do to stay busy when you begin to have energy.

Maybe brainstorm some of those things here. What do you like to do? Do you enjoy any sports? Even just beginning to take a daily walk in nature can be healing.

bonni

August 4, 2009
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mia, try responding on a post, remember its anonymous, and we really don't know who you are, in a sense. I think the more you open up the better you will feel about yourself also. Hope you have a good day today.

((camer)))

August 4, 2009
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Bonni,

Great suggestion of keeping busy when the restless feel comes on. I really needed to see that reminder today.

August 4, 2009
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HI,camer,bonni lanigirl, I forced mysely to go to the pool today for an hour. i was glad i went i enjoyed it. i also ate a bit better today than i have been doing recently. if anyone asked me did i do the right things today the answer would be YES. its great to be able to say that. No sticking my nose in other peoples businness,and trying to do the impossible just concentrating on getting me healthy. camer ur reply to me this morning helped me, thank u ,and bonni ,lanigirl.

August 4, 2009
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yay for ((mia)) see every bit counts...and its true, stay out of others business....let them take care of themselves....and keep the main focus on you!! ((camer))

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