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After 26 yrs, we came together....
October 21, 2006
11:39 am
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This is a bizarre story and things do happen for a reason. Your higher power does work if you let it. As some of you know, my last girlfriend was a workaholic. I had never been with an addict and she was always lookn to start some sort of argument and it would always come back to me as being the bad person. That was a real eye opener for me. I started to look at myself and wondered if I really am a bad person, but with therapy still going and CODA meetings, I was able to see that I am the best person that was being, lets say, ambushed. Thats what it felt like.
Ok, now for the good story. I was determined to go to my 20yr high school reunion single because I knew I would have a better time. So, things did work out that way, got rid of the toxic girl in my life 2 weeks before. Things are all in the uppity up for me. I was going to my reunion to go have fun, talk with many friends and catch up with everybodys life. I was done with having an unhealthy relationship, but was not out to find anybody. Just going to go day by day and if anybody came into my life, I would take it from there.
I went to my reunion, got there 2 hours late cuz I didn't want to eat dinner and it would be cheaper as time passed. I showed up at the door and paid $35 instead of $95. I saw many many friends as I walked in. I didn't know I was so well known. It was the greatest feeling. Started talkn, got a drink, had lots of fun. About 10 min later, this girl walks by. What a babe! I knew her. As she walked by, I said Hi J--. She didn't hear me. It was loud in the room. So about an hour later, I went to another group to say hi. She was there. I said hi to J--, she looked at my name tag and said, "Oh, I remember you". So we got to talkn. She was so pretty. What I didn't know at the time, she had her eyes on me as soon as I walked through the door in the beginning. She told me that she was determined to find out who I was. Long story short, we talked the rest of the night, went to a hotel room suite party, hung out together, got to know each other more and kissing by the end of the night, well 4am in the morning. This is what we call instant attraction for each other. We are still seeing each other and having fun. What is the kicker in this, is that she has had 4 yrs of therapy work and talking to her, she understands what life is all about. Its amazing when you go from toxic to a good relationship, how easy it is without working hard to get what you want. I am me and she is her. We accept each other for who we are. I am ready for a healthy relationship, not one I have to chase down and try to make it work. So after 26yrs of knowing each other, we came together.

October 21, 2006
11:52 am
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Good for you. Ya, I believe in love at 1st sight and of following our hearts. I think, Dude, that b/c many of us have messed up and ended with toxic relationships, we tended Not to recongnize true love in our life when it comes along. I've heard of so many stories likewise.

I wish you both all the best. You are a good guy and I pray that you will stay together and get married and live happily ever after.

(((Dude & J)))

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