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Afraid to ask for support ... yet I am and I thankyou
February 17, 2007
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Afraid to ask for support ... yet I am and thank you for being there.

I do feel this breakup I am experiencing will have a positive outcome and yet having to be honest I am missing the positive connections.

It reached a point for me where the negative outweighed the positives. And the positives were really strong to.

Moving on and feeling alone ...

February 17, 2007
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(((Littlespirit)))

I understand

February 18, 2007
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((((LittleSpirit))))

It will get brighter and better. You just have to take the time to grieve your losses and to give yourself a little pampering.

February 18, 2007
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Hi Littlespirit:

Be gentle with yourself and know that what you are doing for yourself is a big positive.

The negatives must have been bad enough for you to want a change and no harm in pursuing what is best for you and will make you happy.

Change isn't easy and doesn't come as quickly or as easily as we would like. but like the saying goes "Good things come to those who wait".

Patience and perseverence will pay off.

(((Littlespirit)))

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February 19, 2007
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(((Littlespirit)))

February 19, 2007
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Thanks for the support and responding.

Sdesigns

... I feel as if I need to be careful regarding 'patience' though. I would like to think that I am patient to a fault within my relationships, especially with men. And the fault is mine. I clearly say what I need and yet cave in and accept the unhealthy and disrespectful behaviour time and time again.

I was married for 19 years to my childhood sweetheart (I met him when I was 13) and struggled for years until I finally ended it when I felt the well-being of our children was in the picture. I might add that my beautiful children are doing exceptionally well (20 years later)yet attribute that to making a stand that my marriage was intolerable and over and we moved on without a "father and husband" who was unwell.

lollipop3

Your understanding is so important right now, and many thanks for being who you are and responding

mamacinnamon

I do believe that it will get better yet I do not want to go through once again a very painful seperation. Poor me

chelonia mydas

Your simple acknowledgement means a lot to me, and thank you.

I got through today with effort ... yet I know that I will only get out of this what I put in to it so I go through the motions and believe that change is inevitable so I may as well choose to change what isn't working for me on a primary level. Working on me will pay off eventually and I do have a dream of fulfillment.

Again ... thanks all, for taking the time and showing you care. It means so much to me.

February 19, 2007
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February 19, 2007
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Hi Littlespirit,
How can I be there for you?

February 22, 2007
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Its so hard for me to reach out and connect with anyone. I guess I am feeling hurt and want to withdraw yet at the same time knowing that connection with others is the answer, to how I am feeling.

February 22, 2007
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((littlespirit))

ur in my thoughts & prayers, i know this must be very difficult for you. sometimes it can be so hard to do what's best for yourself & lose someone that feels a part of you at the same time.

you're in a very painful phase of the growth right now, and my heart goes out to you. try to stay strong, your breakup was for a reason (probably many). i know the positives had to be strong as well to keep u in the relationship, but try not to lose sight of why ur out of it now.

i wish hope, determination, & strength for you...

hang in there, people care...well, i do. i just sometimes don't know what or how to say it! 🙂

((hugs))

February 22, 2007
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Oh PeircedRose,

You say it all so beautifully.

Yes ... determination and strength and no looking back ... looking to the future.

Why I am out is the reason it had to end. Move on I tell myself and sometimes it is easier than others. And sometimes ... like a wave it comes over me and its hard, very hard.

February 22, 2007
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aahh, the waves. the damned waves. i hate those, don't u? i had one sweep over me within the last 30 minutes with a phone call i can't answer...

i know it's tough, and tough doesn't even begin to describe it. i read your words "I got through today with effort" & it just hit me...everyday will be that way. there will be days when you wake up & have to remind yourself why you're doing what you're doing & how it will help you in the future. i don't know your reasons for leaving, but since they do outweigh the positives for staying, i'm sure in the end it will strongly benefit you.--"you" meaning yourself, who you are inside, and how you feel daily.

as i said before, i can't offer much advice, b/c i'm very slooowly growing myself (i JUST cut off contact with my ex this week). but what i can offer is my support and understanding, which is what i came to this site for...

i hope it helps. 🙂

(((littlespirit)))

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