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Afghan Sisters....Where the love and Frienship grows...
November 7, 2006
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GG,

There you go swetheart....the other one is buried. Have a good day, I LOVE YOU.

Mich

Good Morning to all of the rest of my sisters. GG, LL, Cyn, Need, Jen, kousin kroika, AND Friendma.....And any others I missed...please for give me...our family is far outgrowing my memory.... Love to you all.

Mich

November 7, 2006
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Hello MIA Sister, here.

Friendma, welcome to the wonderful, occsaionally wacky world of the Sisters bonded by a green and purple afghan!!

(((Mich)))
(((GG)))
(((LL)))
(((Need)))
(((Friendma)))
(((kousin kroika)))
(((ArmyAngel)))

Sorry, I wasn't around last night. FIB sent a text message begging me to talk to him. I flipped a coin, told him he could call, and listened to him for three hours. I may still be in love with him, but I am SO glad I see he is not FOR me. I am not concerned about going back and repeating mistakes with him.

He is working on his self-esteem!!! Who'd have thunk it? He has self-esteem issues!!! Shit, I could have told him that. Oh, you'll ALL love this. He asked me if he had any codependent qualities. I told him I had no idea, I wasn't analyzing his issues. I was so proud of myself!!! I didn't rise to the bait of trying to fix him!!!

Okay, so basically he wants to be friends. I don't think so!!! I don't hate him, but he is an idiot. I am not angry anymore!!! That felt good, but I also don't feel the need to talk to him. So, I'm good.

Oh, GG, I'm so happy that you changed the numbers so Pond Scum can't contact you anymore!!! He has got to GO!!!

Holding everyone close today. Love you all very much.

Cyndra

November 7, 2006
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Cyndra---

I changed the cell phone number so that POND SCUM cannot contact me anymore.. I have certainly let him go...

AND I am so happy about making that decision.. I am in the process of trying to block his cell number, his parents phone number (where he also lives with mom and dad at age 36), and his work numbers. The telephone company said that call blocking is not available but I am pushing the issue...

thanks for your support....
IT means a lot to me

GOod morning all my sisters...

thanks mich for burying the other thread... and that is a great name for this thread... where the love and friendship grows...

OUr love and friendship has certainly grown... and we will continue to love and grow together...

hope everyone has a good day

love to all

need

November 7, 2006
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Need,

Congratulations on doing what you need to do to maintain No Contact! I know that feels good.

Someone once wrote about not letting them rent space in our heads. We do that don't we?

Well, have a great day. Hug the puppy for me.

Love,
Cyndra

November 7, 2006
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Good morning girls (((sisterhood))) Just stopping by with well wishes- don't mean to crash your thread.

It's amazing how you girls go through hell every night and in the morning you're all stronger and better for it, and ready for another day. Mich, I love how you work through your demons, then bury the thread and start fresh in the morning. How are you doing today Mich? And you too, gg? I sincerely hope each day brings more and more happiness and security- for you both (for all of you).

There are so many times that I would love to join you ladies, however, I really don't want to upset the applecart!

Just know that I'm following close and hoping for a happy ending.

Isis

November 7, 2006
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Goodmorning girls~ I am up for only a little bit...going to lay back down. I have a headache : ( must be because the weather changed from nice to looks like, yuck (rain coming in??) And yea for me..I woke up all on my own this morning (he usually wakes me)...so THAT was a very nice way to start my day, now if only I could shake this headache.

I love the new thread title Mich. Now I wonder how long it will take us to get 300 postings on this one-what's our record time thus far?!

Again welcome Friendma. I'm really not that airheadish- I did know I welcomed you more than a few times last night : ). I hope you do find yourself comfortable in here or a home anywhere on these boards. You will find that most if not all of the people who hang out around here are pretty awesome. This place has become a life saver from me and you will hear that from many others as well. I hope you find the blessings here that I have. and a question for you...do all people from the Missouri area have such a deep accent?! I'm from MN and I thought we had a deep northern accent but for some reason I think you people have us beat : )

Need~ keep up the great work regarding No Contact...blocking him is a great way to start. It doesn't seem like it would work- but the longer you maintain no contact the stronger you will become. If you ever (and I know you know this) feel weak, you have us in here as well as the No Contact thread to give you back up support. And if you stumble-know that many of us did too as well. And that stumbling really doesn't do much good -(can't think of one example that it did good for anyone other than set them back) but heck, we human, not super human : ) It truly hurts letting go of someone we know is not the healthiest for us (or us not healthy for them) but yet we still love'em. I look forward to the day that my thoughts of the man who brought me to this website are completely gone from my head and are replaced with the new healthy relationship with my self that is forming... as well as - someone who I can love and be loved in return from.

Cyndra~ Well, well, lil missing middle sister, so glad to hear from you. Do you ever in your wildest imagination think that the afghan you made would have traveled this far?! It just may be that afghan that holds us all together after all.

GG~ Hope all is better today and you were able to get some sleep last night. I wanted to stick around last night but I knew that you were in excellent hands, and with the way I was feeling (just tired and not making ANY sense) I thought it would be best if I cut out early...when I start to not make sense to myself (I can at sometimes lose people with my thoughts) then I know it's bad! And as it turned out there could not have been two better (well really 3 including Friendma) sets of hands and hearts filled with love than Mich & Need...the triplets...

Mich my dear friend and sister. Hon we are in this for the long haul...Now we have a thread story (kroika story), a thread community afghan of love & comfort, and a thread theme song...it only continues to get better. Some days we may need a pass to clear our heads or sometimes we may just need to let it all out right in here. Regardless we are here to listen to each other, to support each other, and hold each other through this. We'll get there to whereever it is each of us want to get to in life...the road at times may not be pretty, (how can a road be pretty with self doubt, insecurites, exH hanging around, and the other deep issues some of us face?) but the idea here is to jump on a new fresh road when it's all over and what better company to do this in then when with the support of the beautiful sisters & family we have right here. And some days we may just not have the greatest of days...and that's ok...but when we're honest about it (like you were) those days will eventually become fewer and farther in between. Heck, isn't it said somewhere that the journey getting to the destination is the best of the whole darn adventure?! And in our case it just so happens to include the puke and all (someone needs to come up with a better word for that!)

Alright I think I have rambled enough here this morning. Girls I may not be on much today, then again I may be. Who knows. But do know that I am ok, doing fairly well- didn't make it to Al-Anon last night though (hmmmmm imagine this- but no vehicle). I have hit a little slump here the last few weeks - but know I will get over it. Its not the first time on this jouney, and I would imagine it won't be the last one either- but as long as I keep keeping on' and focusing on the end goal, I'll get there just as all of you will too. We didn't get in the shape we're in overnight, it all takes time.

Love to you all,

LL

November 7, 2006
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(((LL))) How are you? Sorry about the headache but at least HE didn't wake you up.

(((Isis))) you are welcome here any time. We aren't an exclusive group. We let everyone in!!! Welcome.

(((Mich))) I'm still holding you close. Love you sisster.

November 7, 2006
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Hello, Ladies. It is great to get on the computer and find ya'll here. Good morning to ya'll.

November 7, 2006
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Lovinglife, it depends on what part of Missouri you are from. Also, it depends on if people are willing to be catorigized by redneck or country bumpkin. If ya know what I mean.

November 7, 2006
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Cyndra, Thank you for the warm welcome. I appreciate it. Everyone here has been so wonderful to me. I appreciate all of ya'll.

November 7, 2006
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Well, lookie here!! Where are all my sisters today? I know LL has a headache. GG is at work. Mich is dealing with kids and I guess Need has gone off with the puppy. Leaving little old me here alone.

I guess that's what I get for not being responsible.

Cyndra

November 7, 2006
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GG,

I will have a little time to respond to you in just a little bit, because I KNOW you are reading this thread...The other one was BURIED. I LOVE YOU AND I AM HOLDING YOU CLOSE...

November 7, 2006
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Got up from my morning nap {man am I getting old or what?!} ….had a thought or two I wanted to share that I am learning about myself.

On occasion, something happens to me I refer to as 'checking out'....usually something will trigger it, not usually-- ALWAYS something triggers it...and the trigging events are way across the board... my thoughts become negative & start racing, my breathing might a little labor labored, sometimes I'll feel sick to my stomach, for sure I’ll want to shut myself off from the world and don’t know what else…but it doesn’t feel like my *normal me* and that would be minus the physical symptoms and just less of the negative thinking (and should say that my *normal me* has changed greatly in the last month or so-and don’t have really much of the negative thinking any more- if I start in, I zapp it right away! )

Anyhow there is something else similar I have dealt …during these times something will trigger *specific memories* regarding the exH that’s fricken imprinted into my brain…and has more to do with sight, smell, touch, basically my senses. Only with that, to date, there has been no negative thinking or racing thoughts- but pretty much what it feels like is a panic attack where my chest just hurts. And I have dealt with this A LOT less, A LOT less then the ‘checking out’ crap and mostly that is because I know what can trigger it and I simply avoid it or I know to be prepared for something to kick in. And the thing with this is I know what is happening and why . My first experience with this I ended up in the ER because it scared the crap right out of me- thought I was having a heart attack and wanted to be sure that it was in fact my head (I knew what triggered it) and not my heart…try explaining that one to an ER doctor!!

Now…the ‘checking out’ stuff…that is really what I have been working on in here and I am making huge improvements…believe this has to do with more my codependency issues, low self-esteem, self-image self etc. And this checking out stuff I have probably done forever but just now becoming aware of it. 6 months- I had no clue what the heck was going on with me- knew enough that something wasn’t right – but didn’t know the what, the why or the how to stop it. Just knew that it sucked and that it hindered me from living a half way decent life. Thought I’d always be like that. However I am learning that I won’t always be dealing with it. I might on occasion have to deal with the panic attacks (m-f of an exH) or whatever they are, but this checking out shit- I know I can beat, and am. And I am not giving up until I get it all right : )

November 7, 2006
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and Helllloooooo is anyone home in here?! Is LL in the twlight zone again...

GG, Mich, Need,....and hi Iris (you can join in here anytime you want)...where did everyone go, and why hasn't GG checked in yet. No one has to say boo, but at least lets us know that you're alive : )

November 7, 2006
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Hi everyone and (((Warm hug))) to everyone here!!!

November 7, 2006
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OK while I'm waiting around here for my sis's & family to show up I will haul the couch in from the other thread (which btw I am going to take a nap on), turn on our theme song, "You've got a Friend", and post up our theme story by the front door which ends with... “And when you're out in the middle of the snowy mountains, leaving the group is not an option."

" When you are down & trouble and you need some loving care …..and nothing ….. nothing is going right………………….close your eyes and think of me….. and soon I will be there …….. to brighten up even your darkest nights…"

November 7, 2006
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and oh- I'm snuggling up with the afghan and apparently I don't have to share it today with no one!!

November 7, 2006
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and Hi Ras : ) thanks for the warms wishes and hugs!!

November 7, 2006
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Ain't it good to know that you've got a friend....When people can be so cold, They'll hurt you, and desert you, And take your soul if you let them, Oh, but don't you let them...

November 7, 2006
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You just call out my name...And you know wherever I am...I'll come running to see you again...

Winter, spring, summer or fall...All you have to do is call...And I'll be there...You've got a friend

November 7, 2006
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"We've only just begunnnn.... to liiiiive....White lace and promises....A hug for luck and we're on ourr way.....

And yes, We've just begun.

Before the rising suunnnn.....we flyyyyyyy,....
So many roads to choooooose, We start our walking and learn to run.

And yes, We've just begun.

Sharing horizons that are new to us.....Watching the signs along the way......Talking it over just the group of us....Working together day to day........Toooooggggetherrrr.

And when the evening commmmes, we smiiillllle.....So much of life ahead, ...We'll find a place where there's room to grow....And yes, We've just begun.

Sharing horizons that are new to us.....Watching the signs along the way......Talking it over just the two of us....Working together day to day........Together

November 7, 2006
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LL, you around?

November 7, 2006
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gg,

you have NOTHING to be ashamed of, or embarassed about. We need to figure it out. That thread was buried for your sake and mine...Can we leave it that way? Nobody looks at you any different than we did last night. SO you showed Friendma that she is not the only one out there. You calmed down, and we got you through it. You are ok sweetie. I am still holding you. Please talk to me.

November 7, 2006
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OK, Isis, I am doing ok. Not great NOT horrible, but I am still alive, and still a part of my AAC sisterhood. So I guess that is a good thing. You are welcome here anytime you want to be here...we are always welcoming new people...! We have not secluded ourselves. That is a promise. BUT, beware of the affection that takes place on these threads...It can be smothering at times.

Friendma,

Nice to see you around again today. Thanks again dor sticking with us again last night. I appreciate that. You are always welcome here.

Cyn, thanks for holding me today as I have needed it. Thanks a TON for being my sister. And putting up with my whininess. You are GREAT.

Ras, nice to see you around these parts. Hope all is well with you.

Need, where the heck are ya today?

LL, I have a LOT to say to you, and it isn't going to come in this post. Sorry...It will come soon enough.

GG~ GET YUR BUTT ON TO THIS THREAD NOW!!!! Please. I NEED YOU.

Love you all bunches...

Mich

November 7, 2006
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Where have all of my sisters gone? I am feeling lonely....HELLO????

NObody? Seriously....Someone better speak up. We don't have a famly this big and have NOBODY around....well, maybe we all just needed a break after yesterday too. I can respect that. Just know that I love you all VERY much. And gg, I am holding you. LL, are you going to be around at all tonight? I don't need a HUGE conversation, or anyones undivided attention, I just want to ask you a question, BUT, I don't want to leave it hanging where it could very well get missed. Just let me know.

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