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Afghan Sisters..Starting a NEW Day...
November 15, 2006
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Here's a starter for you that is completely embarrassing because he is the father to my sons...he is the man the I married...he is the creep who lives in my home and won’t leave…

My downstairs bathroom and laundry room are separated by a wall…. One day a couple of years ago while I was getting out of the shower, drying off, I noticed an eyeball looking through a hole in the wall-scared the shit out of me - and couldn't believe what I thought I seen - an eyeball??? I asked my sons after that to keep an eye on their Dad when I was showering or bathing- yep my exH was watching me get out of the shower (the hole the first time was because the face plate was off an outlet later he made a pin hole)… There has been many times since then that I am in the shower and can hear him outside of the bathroom – tends to like to do his wash when I’m showering… he’s been confronted about it and denies it. Half the time I am afraid to shower in my own home if he is here and ONLY do so if I have to like going to work and my sons are home.

A friend of mine fears that someday he will rape me...there has been times that I felt just maybe he would...more so when he was drinking heavily. I often keep myself covered up- t-shirt, sweatshirt- even did it this summer... have air but regardless.

November 15, 2006
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I am just sad Need. I din't want to go here tonight. But maybe it was good for all of us. I told LL, that I would just change my attitude and try to have a good night, but she wasn't having it....maybe she needed to get it off of her chest too. Hopefully somewhere we all benefit from this tonight...

November 15, 2006
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I did benefit from it ... MICH and I do understand how difficult it was for you...

and it is ok for you to feel RAW

but also know that you are loved
and loveable

and you have the right to feel
what you feel

November 15, 2006
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now that is something I have held in and only my sons know...the gf gets the idea from others things...

November 15, 2006
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LL---

MY god... I am sorry that you have

to live like that

in YOUR HOME

November 15, 2006
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Keep talking LL. You have nothing to be embarassed of. I am living with the man and still married to him, and everything else that I just spoke of. And he is the father of 3 out of my four, and by choice about to be all four. Yes, the situation is VERY different...BUT, yet very similar. I only think that he does not know what he is doing, or that is what I want to believe. I fear that he knows exactly what he is doing. Do you fear being raped? Answer when you can....I know that you are typing as we are.

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if you don't mind big sis

what other things could clue her

to feel that way about him??

November 15, 2006
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yeah its a hell of alot of fun...also just love to have someone touching me when I don't want to be touch...and he's been told over & over not to touch me.

November 15, 2006
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Do your sons fear for you LL? have they ever said anything about this to you?

November 15, 2006
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That is why when I took a look

into the eyes of the man who

molested me

when he came to my work

only a few months ago

I felt as if he was touching

me all over again

November 15, 2006
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Does he touch you sexually? You don't have to answer any of my questions, I am just asking. I worry about you LL. I don't want you to live like this. I am so sorry. I hope you grow enough to make him go. Are you afraid of what will happen if you force him to go?

November 15, 2006
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I am worried too LL...

I am so sorry that you have to live

like this in YOUR HOME

November 15, 2006
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Need I am so sad for ALL of us. Here we are trying to get over our pasts, and yet, we can't...why because we are still victims right now. I am so sad. Actually crying real tears now. I am so sorry LL. So sorry.

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You have the right and deserve

to feel safe in your own home

November 15, 2006
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I am crying too MICH

November 15, 2006
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IT is NOT FAIR

November 15, 2006
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It is not fair

that we live in fear

--of being raped
--being watched
--being touched without warning to where we are jumping off a chair
--of being verbally abused
--emotionally abused

November 15, 2006
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and being stripped
--from our own sense of self
-not knowing who we are
--of feeling so low
--not being validated
--not understood
-not valued
-not respected
of our own feelings
our OWN body
our OWN mind

November 15, 2006
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It just makes me sick...I want to go on a violent streak and just strangle these guys. Oh it makes me so angry.

November 15, 2006
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he's just creepy...loves my feet for some reason too - and I am laughing about this as I am typing because it just seems to weird to even be true and the fact that I have allowed him to continue to do this shit to me...well really I haven't allowed it- he just does.

When he first moved in here (and this could get long) but I was on a sabbitical from dating- was trying to get my head together and Mich what you talk about wanting to save until Marriage - well that has been my goal at my age as well- exH new this (started the whole thing after the second guy I dated after the divorce)...anyhow he felt for some reason that HE could touch me, that HE could grab my ass, that he could grab my breast, that HE had some right to me. Totally disrespected me... it was constant..trying to sleep with me, telling me all the things he loved to do to me... at first I used to say..."I hope you know that you are touching another mans's wife..." but he didn't care what I felt...he just continued and has since the day he walked into my home.

November 15, 2006
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AND IT IS NOT OUR FAULT

and IT NEVER WAS OUR FAULT

NEVER

WE NEVER ASKED OR WANTED TO BE ABUSED

--physically
--mentally
--emotionally

WE DID NOT CAUSE

--someone to hurt us
--with words
--in anger
--physically hurt us

We are NOT To blame

and WE ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE

NOR ACCOUNTABLE FOR

SOMEONE ELSE's

WARPED ACTIONS

November 15, 2006
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LL, how often is he touching you? Please make him go. PLEASE. I hate to know that you are living in fear. Do you think he is capable of raping you LL? Does he still try to get into bed with you?

November 15, 2006
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and thats pretty much it for the moment...the other day I was going to type in what he did...I was getting ready for work and OH that is another thing...just walks in my room when he knows I am dressing... enough for tonight...

November 15, 2006
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Mich he touches me enough to make me feel like my personal space is completely violated- its daily.

November 15, 2006
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let's bury the thread...I will be back in about 5- son wants to check his email before heading to bed...

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