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Afghan Sisters.....MOVING Forward TOGETHER...
November 9, 2006
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Love you all....

November 9, 2006
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good morning sisters!!

Thanks MIch for starting a new thread..

love you all

November 9, 2006
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good morning sisters,,,little shit gg here...mich...I am going to be a tattle tale today, why, because I can be...I am the baby!!!

First, you know how we always say goodnight and cuddle, well I told LL, as the big sister, that i need my bedtime closure like mich does for me...should have seen her squirm mich...you know what she wanted to do to need and me...Just wrap us up and throw us in the bed and that was it...like I was some boy or something! Yet, she finally came through, but no offers to hold me, but that's okay...oh, and she called me a Little shit also...thought I would tell you that too...

Second, need is going to be our goody 2 shoes triplet...she asked to be bonked by LL...she admits what she does wrong, suck up!!!

So mich, hope you got some rest and hope you know I missed you.. On a serious note, had a problem during the night, not the promise issue, no urges there at all,,,just bad dreams...couldn't sleep was up from 1:30 to 3:30 this a.m.

Gotta finish getting ready for work.....love you all!!! need you all!!! hugs to all!!!!

November 9, 2006
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oh and cyn, you are not off the hook here either,,,,you CAN check in more often!!!(did you detect the sarcasm? you were supposed to!!!)

fm, still not there on the name yet, will see what comes naturally...was the promise hard for you???

army,so glad you pop in,,,I hold you in a special place in my heart...you really have no idea how much I think and care for you and check to make sure that people like mamac and others are looking out for you...

kroika, hey would like to get to know you better!!!

sin, missing you here...

did I miss anyone??? I do miss P&L, haven't seen her in a long while...

okay, have to leave, got up early so I could tattle to mich!!!LOL

November 9, 2006
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So I am not the middle shit after all.. the goody 2 shoes, huh?

Wish I was up late last night when you were here GG... I did not get much sleep I can tell ya that but at least the tooth fairy remembered to do her duties last night..

GG-- hope you have a good day.. remember it is a day at a time...

Cyndra-- thinking of you this morning as always ..

Army-- it was good to hear from you last night.. stay strong and come visit anytime

LL-- did you hear what GG said,, I am a suck up!!! BUt you still gave me the bonks that I deserved..

November 9, 2006
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GG-- I have told you that you always manage to bring a smile to my face before going to bed.,., Now you make me smile in the morning too.. thanks.

Day 5 -- No Contact

Actually I did not even want to be counting but I am following Ma Stong's suggestion because she said that every day of NO CONTACT is a victory..

And I would rather be thinking of something positive that I have done than to think about HIM ....

November 9, 2006
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GG & MICH----my TRIPLETS...

WOnder if LL is going to put that in her file of favorites...

gathering me and GG up in the afghan and THROWING us on the couch last night???

WHat would she call it?

HoW to DEal with the sisters who miss their triplet????

November 9, 2006
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LL, what have you done to my sisters? They are now calling themselves "shits"?

November 9, 2006
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What is an Afghan sister, and how can I become one?

jill
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November 9, 2006
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Show up and post sweetie...We will take on whoever...If you an handle mushy, honest, caring and whatever, you can stay. I will explain more in a minute...

November 9, 2006
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OK, Jas,

Here in these threads you have what has become a VERY large group of women who all care VERY much about each other. We have NEVER denied anyone the right to be a "sister."

But when we just feel like we need to be held, we are. When we need someone to back us up, we have that. When we need to whine, piss and moan, we have that as well. When we want to laugh (and sometimes even when we don't want to laugh) it is here. We have all gotten VERY close, we talk about EVERYTHING. We have a thread song....we have a thread afghan..Now that afghan was brought about one night when one of us was having a horrible night and Cyndra offered her afghan...it has been around since...We have a thread couch, that is where we sit to have some of these conversations that are tough. We get a little "pushy" sometimes, but the word "sorry" is very rarely accepted here. We all give opinions, I even offered for my sisters to babysit my three month old last night. It was fun to watch them fight over who got him first. Naturally, LL, the BULLY used her being the oldest as an excuse to get him first, and the other girls conceded. But this is a great place. If you are looking for a friend, a place to be comfortable, and all kinds of things, you are in the right place. Jas, youa re welcome here, just as anyone else would be. If you can stand us...stick around. You have all the things that go along with true relationships...misunderstandings, failure to respond, and even a couple of arguments...but we ALWAYS have each other in the end. That is what makes this place special. We really have no one in the outside world that understands us, so here we have basically a support group of sisters. Love to you Jas...and I hope to see you around on our threads here.

Mich (((Jas)))

November 9, 2006
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Now LL, we have an issue. Tucking gg into bed does NOT constitute wrapping her and/ or Need in the afghan and tossing them on the couch...SERIOUSLY. I know that affection has not been your strong point but we need a lesson here. If I am gone for ANY length of time, she is going to need you. And being called a shit, and tossed ont he couch is going to cause more emotional problems. Now stop it. You hold her for a few minutes, let her lay her head on your shoulder, hug on her a little, tell her she is ok, tell her she is safe, force her to make her promise..., wrap her up in the afghan lay her down and gently kiss her forehead and tell her you love her. That is how you settle her down and get her to go to sleep and stay that way...not abusing her. 🙂

On a totally different SERIOUS note, thanks for being there for me and chasing me around the site last night. I am VERY protective of you, and it just pissed me off. I hate your exh too. Bastard...let me at him. Anyways..I appreciate your friendship and all you have done for me.

GG,

I am sorry that I wasn't there to put you to bed last night...I apologize for LLs behavior. I think she knows what she is doing now, if she will listen...
I love you very much and I hope that you have a good day.

Mich

November 9, 2006
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oh and jas, we are NOT from Afghanistan either! My daughter thinks I converse with teachers from Afghanistan, they have no clue!!!

This family tree is growing and I am going to have to write down all names, locations, and birth order...otherwise the ADD will go into overload here...

Thanks for listening to my tattle tales...I feel better now...You are getting better LL with the mush, and seriously, thanks for the bedtime goodnight...I am such the baby, aren't I ??? And also, mich and LL, thanks for protecting me this week too, that makes me feel special too, even if I give you a hard time and act like a real little shit...and need, you are the middle triplet suckup so maybe that does make you the middle shit...whoa a minute,,,mich,,,does that mean you are the big shit?!? LOL

Okay, in a goofy mood from lack of sleep, so watch out, don't know what will come out of the mouth today...

Need, help me keep this family organized, okay, seriously, I know that you know what I mean, because I am feeling anxious....

LL, are you still sleeping??? I swear you hibernate up there in frigid land!!! Love you big sis, big kiss on the cheek...HA HA HA

better go, getting crazy now!

November 9, 2006
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I can be the big shit...we'll go with that...Did you see what I told LL about how to put you to bed GG? Was that pretty accurate?

November 9, 2006
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Mich, I love you so much,,,thanks for explaining the right way to LL, maybe she will listen to you...she does not listen to me at all!!! You make me feel so safe mich...I mean it...seriously...okay...love you,,,and kiss on the cheek to you too!

November 9, 2006
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we cross posted gg...I love you too sweetheart...sorry i wasn't around last night for you. I was SO exhausted...

November 9, 2006
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Thanks. Not sure I can participate. I find that I am shy of people. I don't know how to be around people. I am skittish. If you try to touch me, I'll wince and pull away.

November 9, 2006
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You will be just fine...Jas. It will grow on you...I promise...We are good for growing and learning, and all of that. Even if you don't feel you can participate with us, watch us for a while...Talk when you want...we are very open, people pop in and out all of the time. (why do they apologize every time though?) The more you hang around the more comfortable you will become..I PROMISE.

November 9, 2006
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mich, you just said you were sorry, better stop!...you get a bonk now...gonna tell...because I love you...for your own good!!!

jas, I need to talk to you girl...You would not believe it and my sisters will probably laugh here, but I am very shy until you get to know me...It takes me a LONG time to feel safe and comfortable...This thread did not happen overnight...it has developed over time, naturally, and with love....I too, could not stand to be touched at all and would never ask for a hug...or to be held or touched in any way either...yet, again, this has happened naturally...

jas, I have learned to trust the women here..I feel safe and really feel that they care for me...this is a new concept and again it did not happen overnight...so if you find, especially mich and me, very mushy and touchy, it is only because this is my safe haven in life because down where I live, I am quiet, on guard, non-trusting, etc...I am finally getting to be me here, letting my guard down, trusting, and feeling freedom for the first time probably ever in my life... I hope this explains us jas...I sat back first and just read and let myself in cautiously too...and now, I am hanging all over my sisters!!!!

November 9, 2006
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Here I go again. after several days of contact I received this email.

Just got in its late i hear so loudly and clearly what you are saying and i am so pleased for you i know, have always known, what a completely special person you are i keep being drawn back into contact with you because, i think, i so desperately want it all to just be ok between us again but i don't think it can and which is more painful...? a complete break or to prolong our agonies with expectations about what probably can never be between us again? i am a hopeless idealist i am struggling badly here but the truth is i am happy... happier
life is so much easier without you - don't take that as harshly as it sounds - easy is not necessarily good
easy can equal lazy maybe i can't cope with anybody pushing me to do the work? i'm rambling i wish you the very very best of everything in life i still don't quite know what happened to 'us'i think i will continue to hibernate for a bit and hope the world goes away

love always

So back to square one N/C I will have to stop myself taking her calls

November 9, 2006
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Welcome Jas- I totally understand about that touching stuff... totally understand. I told Mich & GG at one time I was the cold b*tch from h*ll during a convo about needing hugs and all that jazz. wonder if they forgot that convo?! And Mich is right Jas, you are more than welcome to just sit & listen, or if you want to talk, we're here. Sometimes it can get crazy in here {like we all are having issues at the same time, or one of us is just having a bad,, bad, day or night.} But our goal is to be here for each other and we welcome anyone who finds the comfort in friendship & lots of love.

Now Mich, first do you KNOW what GG did last night to get called a lil’ sh*t??! Ya know when I was out chasing you, while you were chasing Astute...and we didn't want GG to get upset but suggested to her to hold the fort/home down in here???? Well, GG spit it out to Mich what you did : )

And Mich, tell me what the heck I was suppose to do with GG and Need last night?! I have never tucked her in with a goodnight- I didn’t know what the heck to do- so I said “can’t I just wrap ya up and throw ya in bed??” Apparently that is not what you do- so please leave directions the next time you forget that you left your sis on the couch waiting for you to say goodnight!! It will never be the same if its not you Mich, but promise I will try better next time…and GG in the end I did an ok job, right?! (Jas- did I ever mention that at one time I told Mich & GG that I was the cold b*tch from hell?!)

Need, first day 5!! Yea! And Ma Strong is right- counting the days does help because you’ll see progress. And for some reason the early days were easy for me (I was too p*ssed, too hurt, too much of everything not to give him the satisfaction of ever hearing from me again)…however once I hit day 20 I started missing him really bad (and you know what triggered that? A fricken sex thread!!) and then I crashed, broke contact and I’ll tell you the rest of the story later.) Hang in there, he is not what you need to continue to become emotionally healthy and will just hold you back into the hurt that you knew with him. I am very thankful today I walked the NC road (though I stumbled, and stumbled, and stumbled after day 20.) It’s hard Need, and anyone who has walked the road of letting go of someone we love (whether you’re forced to like in my case or initiated the step yourself) it’s just plain hard. And I better stop while I am ahead- because I STILL think of him on occasion, AND STILL get fricken tears in my eyes thinking about him. Ok, need to shake this off…but do know that the pay off in the end of NC is much better than continuing on in the pain…the greatest for me has been tremendous growth and the meeting of all of you 🙂 of which both I wouldn’t have had.

Simondo~ I wonder if your post landed on a thread different than you thought : ) either way here is a hug for you ((((Simondo)))). That email was painful for me to read and reminds me of why No Contact is the only way to go…I personally don’t deal well with pain. ((((Simondo))))

Ok where is Cyndra? And Friendma?

Girls I will be off & on through out the day. Got to put the house back together from being off work- which btw my weekday starts tonight . I’m on overnights til Monday. And just have to share this…first GG (and really all) I need your prayers about cute guy…I might get to work with him Saturday : ) : ) : ) I haven’t seen him since I’ve been back to work about a month ago other than the first day back and he was my trainer- and the two times I almost ran him off the road (he really is a sweetheart of a guy-you girls would approve) BUT what I really wanted to share was that my supervisor just called and there are lots of shifts open in the next month….and that would be a blessing (thinking about exH) if I pick some of those up. All overtime 🙂

Alrighty sisters (and maybe a brother?!) I’ll check back in.

Love, LL.

November 9, 2006
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and my point about picking up shifts- I don't need my exH!! Never have and never will. Now I told the supervisor I would get back to her which is stupid BECAUSE if I would have stuck to my fricken guns 2 weeks ago and not let *ss back here- I would have swoop up every shift I could have- but see having him around me leaves me weak & confused...I will get there!! I will get there!! (and Oh, cute guy knows about exH-and has a little understanding- hopefully more on that one later, but if not like Need said- and Ma Strong said once too, having a crush is a good thing- brings life to ya AND if the two of us could ever get a chance to talk - grrrrrrrrr. But my love life is completely in the hands of my Higher Power and I really need to listen and follow the lead given to me - for one to get the ex out here...and two let things fall where they may (but a little prayer doesn't help!)

November 9, 2006
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LL, you got it girl, the prayer is going!!! LL, know you are going to be busy working and sleeping starting tonight, but will you keep me in your prayers tomorrow, especially from 1-5 when I am going through all the tests...It is going to hurt and I can't cry in front of people and it hurts so much on the inside...and I am going to be real scared, really...haven't been wanting to think about it...and it is going to hurt knowing that I will not have contact with all of you until Sat. night when I get home...gosh, hope someone will be here then....and LL, you did fine last night!!!mich has spoiled me rotten and I LOVE IT!!!! You had better print out her directions though!!!

oh and mich, I got called a lil shit because I did not listen to my big sis when she tried to protect me, so I guess I deserved it! There you happy,LL!!!

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GG know we all will be with you tommorrow holding onto you, tightly with love . I will for sure check in on Saturday night.

And yes, Michy does have you spoiled rotten : )

And thanks for fessing up but you didn't quite tell Mich exactly what you did...

November 9, 2006
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Ok girls...here's the deal. h is home for the rest of the day...I am outta here. I need a day as I have a long appointment with Jim tomorrow. I am going to get my hair cut and died, and my eyebrows waxed etc. Can you girls get along while I am gone? Thanks. I will be here later, I PROMISE gg. I will catch you all in a little bit...I love you all, and gg, I am holding you close. that too is a PROMISE.

Mich (the big shit)

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