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ADVISE FOR A FRIEND.
March 21, 2008
4:19 am
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Hello All!! Good to see so many good people still posting.

I'm on here today on behave of my best friend. You see I don't know what to tell him and I'm hoping you good people can help me out.

He's been with this girl for about 2 months now, hes known her for about six months. Anyways, he calls me today about midnight and tells me this crazy story about how he and his girlfriend went out tonight and got really drunk and began to get intimate and in the middle of innercourse she began to whisper her ex boyfriends name in his ear. He said she was so drunk that she actually said it a few times. He said that he stopped and made her sleep on his couch, he said he didnt want to make her leave because she was so drunk and was in no condition to drive home.

The truth I don't know what to tell him, I was clueless on what to say. I've never been good at giving advise, I told him to sleep on it and we'd talk more about it in the morning. He was pretty drunk himself.

Now I know he's gonna call me in the morning. What should I say? He's my best friend and I want to help him but he seems to be really into this girl and I don't want him to make a decision based on what I would do.

Any advise friends? šŸ™‚

March 21, 2008
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(((Santino))) how are you babe??

as for your friend, first...how long b4 she dated your friend was she "with" her ex....maybe she is not over her ex????

I know, I did this b4 mentioned my "ex" bf's name, felt really bad about it, but obviously my ex was still on my mind.

Your friend needs to decide if he wants to be with this girl, and I think the more he finds out about "her" past, the better off he will be.

Maybe she is still wrapped up in her "ex".....maybe she was just so
drunk and mumbled the ex's name...either way.............find out how long she has been "without her ex" and that may give some answers.

March 21, 2008
11:39 am
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Hello Camer!! I hope all is well with you! I'm doing great! For the first time in a long while I have no drama of my own to post!! šŸ™‚

But I have a friend in need and I want to help like I was helped by all you kind people!!

My friend didn't want to sleep in the same house as her so he walked over to my place shortly after I posted the first thread. (we live 1 block apart) He was hurt more than upset. He didn't know what to do, I asked him if this was an issue in the past and he had mentioned that she spoke of him in the past but she never did anything like that while they were intimate.

I told him maybe she was just really drunk and he said that people usually tell the truth when they are drunk. I really didn't know how to respond. So we chatted for about an hour an he went back home. He texted me about an hour ago that she left in the morning and said nothing of the incident, he didn't mention it either. He's wondering if she even remembers or is trying to play stupid. I told him to think about it and to calm down, he tends to blow off the handle when he's upset. And when he's calm and ready, have that talk.

Is it really that bad? I kind of feel like he's overreacting but I don't want to say that becuase to him it's like a big deal> What do you all think?

March 21, 2008
12:24 pm
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I think that since she was drunk....and said it, maybe she doesn't remember saying it.

I myself have said an "ex's" name b4, and felt really bad, but by no means did i want to be with my "ex"...I guess the ex was just on my mind, in a bad way!

Your friend may be blowing things out of proportion, but that is who he is and has a right to feel this way, maybe he likes this girl alot....heck, i'd be pissed if my man said and "ex's" name while we were doing it!!

It will just have to take some time,
see if she says anything about it, and maybe was too drunk to remember, or he could "calmly" tell her about it, and see how she responds, does she feel guilty, or does not care....and most of all, what are her feelings for her "ex" now, is she "over him" or is the ex still on her mind, in that case, maybe she should not be in a relationship.

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