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Advice on how to change co-dependent patterns?
February 19, 2006
11:32 am
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I am in a relationship with an amazing guy who treats me really well, but sometimes I feel that I rely on him to make me happy. I spend a lot of time with him & and have become so used to seeing him, that I'd prefer to be in his company than alone. Lately he has been honest with me & said that he needs a little bit of space. I love him & know it's important for me to give him space if he needs it, but it's difficult for me to be alone. I'm wondering if anyone has experienced this too? I want to be strong in my own skin & love myself. Yet, it's easier said than done. Advice?

February 19, 2006
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Hey Padma - Yes, I can definitely identify with this. I used to be like that b4. Thanks to the healing process I went thru, I became more strong and independent.

The reason why we act that way is due to childhood wounds. Either or both of our parents denied us love, abused us, abandoned us, mistreated us...that's why we become obsessive over our loved ones.

I would highlty recommend you to purchase Melody Beattie's book "Codependent no more", attend coda meetings by logging on coda.org to find out the closest meetings in your district.

I would also recommend you during this time to detach a little from your bf and do some soulsearching and self-discovery during which you learn to re-connect with your HP. Only then you will be able to discover your strength and endurance and will find healing and wholeness from childhood wounds.

Wishing you all the best in your journey!


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