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adult dealing with childhood molestation for the first time
April 27, 2009
2:45 pm
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Cassidyseas
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I'm a 25 y/o female just starting to come to terms with being molested by my uncle some 20 years ago. I had repressed the memory for so long; refused to acknowledge it, and it's bubbling over and causing me severe anxiety and anger in my relationships. I've tried therapy for a brief time, and tried throwing myself into work and sports to burn off the extra agression and feel like a capable, confident, worthwhile young woman. Someone close to me has advised that I've taken all the initiative I can at this point, and that I just need to let time heal...But I still feel lost, and confused, and hurt. What else can I do?

April 27, 2009
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Sweetheart usually when dealing with childhood abuse therapy for a short time wont cut it. It leaves lasting memories and can effect our everyday life. Counseling can take a few years to get better. There are also lots and lots of books on that particular issue my fave is a christian book and its called the wounded heart. Plus just talking about it here has helped me a ton.

April 30, 2009
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Another great book, especially with the workbook is The Courage to Heal, god bless.

April 30, 2009
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It is all very confusing and it feels like there is nothing you can do. Keep up what you are doing, give yourself time. I know how you feel and i am working through similar things. One day it won't be so hard, it will be there but it won't be everpresent. All my best wishes and luck.

April 30, 2009
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(((Cassidyseas))),

I'm really sorry about the abuse you encountered. I can relate. It isn't until I hit thirty that I even started to remember and acknowledge that I might, perhaps, been abused. A few years later, I started to feel it and then all hell broke loose. Now, I'm almost at the end of it and I feel peaceful and I know that I will be okay.

Like the others suggested, you need to do therapy with a person who deals with this specific issue. Read all the books you can get your hands on. When you are ready to speak, tell your story. You will get to the other side. Hang in there, be patient with yourself, be happy that you feeling emotions about it. Above all else, know that you were the victim. Your uncle was and is a sick, sick, person. There is no ounce of blame on you here. Give your uncle the blame he rightfully deserves.

Dr. Phil's book/cd, self-matters really helped me go through this at my own pace in the privacy of your own space. Keep posting.

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