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Accentuate the Positive- Lets celebrate something good about our life
July 1, 2007
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There is a song by this title that keeps playing in my head. If you want to hear it go to http://www.youtube.com/watch?v.....PrZ8vVZ2no

I really enjoy the threads that focus on postive things- so I am starting one of my own.

Even with all of my troubles, I love my life and really appreciate all the people who are in it that make a positive difference to the world.

It is troubling that as a society we seem to focus on negative things. Yes there are bad things in our lives and they are hard to deal with. I agree and support anyone who is trying to identify them so we can work through it and move past it and learn from it. But at the same time I think it is very helpful to acknowledge that there are also lots of good things too.

There is a ranger at my work who has to work outside all the time in all sorts of weather from really hot muggy icky weather to beautiful clear days to rainy cold windy miserable weather. The work he does is mentally boring and physically strenous- he doesn't fit in with the other rangers and they often give him the crappiest jobs to do (literally- he cleans all the bathrooms at least 3 times a week) but in spite of all of this- he loves his job. After talking to him for over a year now and trying to figure out why- it just dawned on me tonight that it is because he focuses on all the postive things his job brings him. He enjoys the good days and looks forward to them to get him through the bad. He focuses on things he enjoys doing and finishes up with the things he dislikes so he can then work on the tasks he likes.

For most people there seems to be a spotlight on anything negative- which gives it all the energy it needs to grow and multiply while very little if any of the light is on anything postive leaving it to wither away in the darkness. For this ranger he does the opposite and puts the spotlight on the positive things- which gives it all the energy it needs to grow while leaving very little left to nurture the negative things in his life.

So this thread is my attempt to nuture the postive things in life so it can grow and leave the negative to wither away and weaken into something easier to deal with.

What is positive in your life today?

July 1, 2007
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Here are a few positives in my life:

Most of my pets are healthy and the ones that aren't are getting better.
I am healthy. I have a job that I like. I have a house with fruit and nut trees. I have comfy shoes that don't give me blisters. The sunset was beautiful tonight and I took the time to watch it.

July 1, 2007
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My dog is the love of my life right now. She motivates me to get out of the house when I rather crawl under the bed and makes me laugh when I think I'm about to cry.

Music itself is wonderful! Dancing alone in the apartment like a fool wakes up my soul.

Children make me laugh and I love when I'm at work if I can do at least one thing a day to make them or their parents happy. My job is getting me down, but the other day I was reading a book out loud to a class. This is so routine to me, I actually don't think much of it. The class loved the book, but also one of the kids said "I LOVE the way you read!" And then they all started to talk about that and they said such sweet things. I don't always get ego gratification out of my job- but that was something even more- I loved that I could help them have FUN.

There is a wonderful woman who does outreach for us. She came and took over a lot of the desk duty so that I could get work in my office done. I loved her for it, she not only helped me with that, but by doing so helped restore my sense of serenity a bit. It is really amazing to meet such selfless people.

sorry i rambled.

July 1, 2007
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Ella,

These are all such great things. Thanks for sharing them.

I can see you captivating that class with your story.

I still remember last October when you helped me with that Halloween event at the park.

Thanks for all you do to inspire and encourage children. I remember people in my childhood who made such a difference to me. Some of them I only remember something they said or did that influenced me- I don't even remember their name. I don't think they ever even knew I remembered them, let alone the positive impact they had on my life. You seem like you fall into this same catagory for some of the kids you interact with.

Keep up the great work. The world needs more people who make a positive difference.

Thanks for posting.

July 2, 2007
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Chelonia-

Yeah, we need to share heal, but what you said about our society is true. It focuses on negative things- but not at all in a therapuetic way. Just think of all the movies, media and such. Not that I'm saying that true journalism shouldn't tell us about current events, but the sensationalism of tabloids, the violence in video games and popular culture that seems all but revered makes one wonder. Have we lost our appreciation for beauty as a culture? I'm all about keeping it real, but there seems to be a derth of beauty and appreciation for the wonders of life. Maybe this has something to do with our disconnection with nature as an industrialized society. One positive thing that I see alonside the worries of environmental disaster is an increased interest in the environment and nature Herself. Just looking at all the great programs on the cable stations like Animal Planet, Discovery, National Geographic... makes me feel like there may be a renaissance of nature lovers.

OOps I forgot who I was talking to! Who knows that better than you nature woman! You are one of my new heroes!

-ella

July 2, 2007
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Hey ella:

That probably means more to those kids than you know. Think of how many of them don't have parents who spend the time with them to read, and take an interest in them. Having adults like you in their life to give them some attention is tremendously influential.

SD

July 2, 2007
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Things that make me happy,

SHOES!!!! beautifullt designed shoes of all colours, shapes, texture! So I have lots and lots of them and I love looking at them 🙂

MY APARTMENT!!! I love that I have my own space and I can do with it whatever I want. I have my pictures, flowers, mess, things, just the way I want them.

MY FAITH!!! I know we don't speak about religion here but I love the Faith I belong to now because I chose it for myself and I feel like I can finally worship God the way I have always wanted to.

THIS SITE!!! The day I found this site, I felt like I had found my long lost cousins. It's good to come here and read where people are at and get support from everyone here. Thank you all.

COOKING FOR FRIENDS!!! I love every aspect of cooking for my friends. From the shopping, peeling, washing, cooking, serving, to the eating. It's so much fun to see people enjoy food that I have cooked.

MY HEALTH!!! I can finally make sense of myself, my life, and my actions. I can exercise on a regular basis, I am not on any prescription medication. How awesome!!!!

KOREAN SOAP OPERAS!!!!My addiction of choice. I just the emotional rollercoater then send me on once I start watching one. I have learnt a lot of Korean just watching them.

I am happy for so much more!!!

July 2, 2007
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Hi everyone!

My ART - and the beauty of everything around me that helps me translate into Sumi-es, Watercolors, Acrylics and now...hopefully, OILS.

MY Friends - Here in this cyber world and in the real world who love me, appreciate my art, who appreciate ME and who are there for me and give me their support.

My Cats - who are brother and sister and whose personalities are so different from eachother that they make me laugh at some of their antics - especially with eachother.

MY Ability to TEACH ART - and to my students who tell others what a wonderful teacher I am and want to take more lessons from me because I make learning FUN!

MUSIC - ALL of it with the exception of most rap, hip hop and cry in your beer country music.

The OCEAN - because it is soothing to me even when it is turbulet!

SUNSETS - because only a HP or Mother Nature can paint such a beautiful sky so that people can look at in awe and wonder!

July 2, 2007
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It's really important that I mention that I MAKE ME HAPPY!!! Just because I am me and I have been blessed to be in this world and experience life as I have. I am happy that I can be happy with me!!!

July 2, 2007
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Great thread.

Having enough to eat - that's a biggie that I take for granted.

My dog - although I've been taking him for granted lately too (sorry pooch).

My health - mental and physical

Warm baths in what is turning out to be a very cold Souther Hemisphere winter.

Flannel PJs straight out of the dryer (see above) and waking up after a great night's sleep.

The fact that I got to spend time with my Mum today. That was a gift.

Having friends who know how to give support when I need it, listen when I need them to, and to do the talking and make me laugh when I'm all talked out. That's a biggie.

All good.

Hugs,

H x

July 2, 2007
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Hi everyone

****************I AM SO GRATEFUL TO HAVE YOU ALL IN MY LIFE ************

THANK YOU

XX

July 2, 2007
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Oh, my list would be WAY long.

But - for starters -

I am thankful to be pregnant again, to have a loving and supportive partner this time, to be facing a future I could only dream of.

I am thankful for my partner and the ability to have a healthy relationship wtih him.

I am thankful for the weather cooperating during our move and also for the weather giving us rain that forced us to "slow down" a bit when we really needed to.

I am thankful for my future visit with my mom in August.

I am thankful that my parents move was succesful and they are happy and thriving.

I am thankful for the relationship with my brother that is finally stable and good for both of us.

I am thankful for my career and the financial ability to get my debt paid off and afford this new baby without being on assitance.

I am thankful for the roof over my head.

I am thankful for the growing garden we have.

I am thankful for my pets - they bring me comfort, joy and amusement.

I am thankful for a future mother in law that I get along with, who is kind and sweet.

I am thankful for the two good friends I have, whom I can count on and hope they feel the same about me.

I am thankful for the healthy, happy, well adjusted daughter who has been a blessing many times over.

I am thankful her father decided to bow out of our lives - and not give us headaches that so many joint custody parents have.

I am thankful for his sisters, who have kept in contact and will give my daughter some peace of mind should she want to know his family.

I am thankful for all the things, good and bad, that have brought me to this point in my life....that has made me who I am today.

I'll stop now...but there IS more.

July 2, 2007
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Accentuate the Positive.....Great Song!!!! (I have it in my collection, by Johnny Mercer written, I think in the 40's.)

First time I heard that song on a local jazz station - I went bezerk! Went right out and bought it. In years past, I even had a snipit of that song play on my answereing machine. Actually, I am trying to record another snipit of a song: Love & Happiness by Al Green on my new answering machine...but it's digital and doesn't transfer the music well at all (not like my ole mini-cassette answering machine....) But anyway, really great thread.

Ella, you posted something that really got me to thinking: "Have we lost our appreciation for beauty in this culture?"

I think, to a certain extent we have. It makes me so sad when I hear about so many public schools cancelling art and music programs with much more of the focus being directed towards math and science. I hope that this is only temporary measure and a change to re-establish these necessary subjects begin to unfold.

I guess, in answer to this thread - I am finally making the shift to simply "let love in" into my life.

I am thankful that I have such a great team of creative, ingenious angels (along with my spirit guide) right there by my side all the time and will give me answers I need - all for just the asking.

Just last night I thanked them all for being so helpful and that I really appreciated each and every one of them. (Afterall, everyone likes to feel appreciated - right? Even angels and spirit guides!!!!)

I just have to be careful what I ask for - because I may be inviting myself into a real nifty roller-coaster ride...but its worth it - because in the end - I get my answer.

((((Love and Light to ALL))))

July 2, 2007
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Monday was my birthday. All the people I know went to great lengths to wish me a happy birthday even people I scarcely know showed up with presents or cards. I never knew I had so many friends. I feel so happy and thankful

July 2, 2007
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I have plenty to celebrate and a very long list, but I will be modest and keep it to myself. But I am happy and I don't rely on other's happiness for me to be happy.

July 3, 2007
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MY FIRST LOVE!!! Who has come back into my life after 37 years...who loves me, who is still in love with me, who is supportive of me in my recovery and healing, who tells me he loves me unconditionally, nonjudgementally, and who is here for the long run with me. And who put me in his prayers that he would find me again, 10 years before he found me! MY SOULMATE!

July 3, 2007
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I am grateful to all the good i have in my life.

xx

July 3, 2007
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Just wanted to share with everyone, ive had an absolutely brilliant day. So positive. You know sometimes I forget, how strong i am.

Anyway received a cheque in the post for some work i did.

It rained so hard today, whilst out and I bumped into a friend i hadnt seen for about 10 years. She offered me a lift in the storm home. It was just so lovely to see her.

I went to my accounts course tonight, and everyone in my class got given their exam papers back (apart from me), because they made mistakes. Im in complete shock! This is the first course ive ever done, where i did not put 150% of my energy into and I passed the exam. Infact, due to work commitments, I most probably did about 50% homework. Im just so amazed i did well. Infact, im shocked. Its given me back my confidence 🙂

July 3, 2007
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Great thread, Chelonia!!!

I am grateful that tho I've was exhausted this morning, I went to the office.

I am grateful for my health, the nice folks in my life, this site.

I am grateful that tho I've had a trial lately, yet I forgave that person who caused that pain, whether he meant it or not. He is forgiven! period!

I have kitty and I love her.

My sore shoulder is getting better.

July 3, 2007
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Tiger trainer-

Happy birthday!

July 3, 2007
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My sister and I have our sisterly issues, but I am grateful that she makes me laugh and that we do a lot of fun things together. We are going to the movies tomorrow to see "Sicko" which reminds me- I am grateful for my health insurance, not to mention the fact that I get to see a good therapist.

Also, I know this sounds dumb- also, good movies and books and easy access to things like that for free.

July 3, 2007
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WOW!
We have a lot of positive things surrounding us. Thanks to everyone for sharing such a great list.

I had an incredible day yesterday where I joined an aquantance/friend who does dolphin research and got to see dozens of dolphins. There are more details of my adventures in the Coffeehouse thread.

I dreamed in dolphins last night and had one of those days that I will remember for the rest of my life.

The day started out as quite a disaster actually with lots of drama and hurt feelings but I kept thinking of the ranger at work who just keeps focused on the positive... and kept looking at what was working out and let the drama dissipate into nothingness- like a morning fog dissipates in the sunshine. I'm so glad that I didn't let the mishaps of the day ruin this especially wonderous experience.

In addition to just the chance to be close to dolphins- I also learned a lot yesterday in a personal way. I realized that what we focus on is what we remember most. I have known this for a while in a logical in-my-brain kind of way; but to actually feel it in my soul is something quite different. Today I reflected back on other times in my life that could have been wonderful, but because I always chose to focus on what went wrong and let it drown out any hope of happiness- I missed out.

I am glad that the ranger who always is positive is in my life. He has taught me by example more than I think he will ever realize. I hope to remember this lesson in the future so I don't let my attitude get in the way of me enjoying my life. There is always drama and mishaps- but there is also usually something positive that we can enjoy.

July 3, 2007
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Chelonia-

How did the person who led the group tell the dolphins apart? I saw something on orangutangs and their caretaker said she could identify them by characteristics like their unique hairdos! It was cute they showed how some have their hair sticking up, some have longer, etc..

July 3, 2007
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It was mostly by their dorsal fins and for some it was a combination of their dorsal fin and different skin shades or color patterns on their skin- or even the tagbarnicles attached to their fins. Some of it was who they were hanging with too. She is out with them several times a week so she knows them very well.

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