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Abuse-did it really happen or is it all in my head
February 26, 2007
10:55 am
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Hello all

I am thirthy four years old, female mother of three wonderful boys. I have always felt different, ever since I can remember. Over the last few years I have faced and fought many battles especially in my marital relationship. With the latest saga that is my life. I have begun to look inwards. I have memories they are now invading my every day life. It almost as if I the present trauma brings back awful insecurities back to when I was a child yet I have no clear memories is it all in my head but why would these things be in my head if it didn't happen. I am also very afraid of the consequences if its true....

February 26, 2007
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nibbles,

It sure sounds like something traumatic happened. Why would somebody want to make something like this up? I would trust your feelings and instincts. Maybe you are unclear about what happened because it happened when you were very young or it is blocked out. It is not uncommon for abusive memories to come into consciousness later in life. Its almost as if your being could never deal with this before, but not that you are more mature, your being wants to deal with this.

What consequences are you afraid of? Regardless of consequences, I would find a therapist who specializes in childhood abuse and check this out with the therapist.

February 26, 2007
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weather you remember the abuse or not It can come back to haunt you. I have lots of personal experience in this matter. Trust you feelings sweetheart. They will not lie to you. A therapist would be a good call especialy if you start remembering things. That is not easy to do alone belive me. (((Nibles)) You are not alone in this

February 26, 2007
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nibbles,

It ain't just in your head - so please - do not further complicate the matter by thinking that it is.

It's real.

Most times - and oddly enough -"stuff" will start to surface when we are finally in a safe and secure environment.

Somehow - something in our minds triggers the message - that - yes - things are somewhat safe and secure....so I'll just present myself, you know?

No one "makes up" bad shit - really!

It's not natural.

What is natural is that you recognize it for what it is....stuff that happened in the past.]

When stuff like this happens to me - I keep saying to myself....that was then.....this is now...over and over again to try and diffuse the emotional charge of it all.

Going back into our past and regressing old feelings isn't all bad. It can release us from these old, long gone emotional chains once and for all and allow us to move forward in our lives.

Whatever happened in the past......as awful as it was - you survived. You are here.

(just kind of think about it as the after-shocks of an earth-quake.)

And remember - it is ONLY the after-shocks....and NOT the earthquake itself!!!!! - if that helps.

((((((WARM HUGS))))))))))))

February 26, 2007
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Hi, I have found that when a person speaks out those things that have been buried or hidden for a long time, it is a way of bringing then out into the open and being released from their life-long wounding affects. I know that when I admit stuff that I find harmful to myself such as bitterness, fear etc. and I actually speak out loud the people or event associated with theat feeling it releases me from its power and I speak the opposite emotion to replace it. Fear - security, bitterness - forgiveness. I equate it to Jesus's words, Father forgive them for they know no what they do. Bring all things to light, confess them and forgive. Don't let the past keep you from the future blessings.

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