Avatar

Please consider registering
guest

sp_LogInOut Log In sp_Registration Register

Register | Lost password?
Advanced Search

— Forum Scope —




— Match —





— Forum Options —





Minimum search word length is 3 characters - maximum search word length is 84 characters

sp_TopicIcon
A weird sexual situation when I was a child...
February 10, 2001
8:09 pm
Avatar
flaggirl
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

When I was 10 the son of my mom's best friend, started touching me. He was 11 one year older than me. It started with him just poking me down there and saying "raisin in the middle" whatever that means, but it got worse. Now I'm sure everyone is wondering why I didnt' tell my mom, but I knew that this kids mom wouldn't believe it. It rapidly progressed from him poking me to fondling me, to feeling my boobs, to him performing oral sex on me. Now I was only 10 and new what it was like to have an orgasm. I began to enjoy it. When ever our families would get together we would sneak off and do our thing. This progressed over the years and got quite out of control, I had no idea who to tell or how to stop it. I knew it was wrong, but I liked the orgasms. As I got older I tried to stop it, but would see him couple times a year and it would start over again. I am now almost 23, and I think it's been just over a year since I did anything with him. Amazingly our parents never found out. I have buried it inside for all these years, and I'm also starting to think that this has had some kind of impact on my life.

February 11, 2001
8:45 am
Avatar
janes
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 24, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

NO FAKE--

Children enjoy candy because we
teach" them to...Same with orgasms except you or anyone isn't ready for that kind of experience at 10 years old.

You have been in the presence of a sexual predator...

THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT. YOU WERE A VICTIM. .. This "friend" essentially raped you. Many states do not consider the idea of "consenual sex" until the participants reach the age of majority.
In Wisconsin a young lady got pregnant with her boyfriend and they were going to marry..but the state almostput the young man in jail for rape because she was under 18....

If it is bothering you then seek a counselor if possible.

If this behavior is still continuing with him...if you tell him "no" and he doesn't listen then IT IS RAPE.

Check out the laws where you live.

February 11, 2001
11:05 am
Avatar
flaggirl
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Janes! thank you for replying to both of my posts! It is no longer continuing but did so up until a year or so ago. Is it rape though, even if sometimes I would initiate it? I would try not to, but I had those sexual urges all too early.

February 12, 2001
6:37 pm
Avatar
Molly
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Rape I don't think so, in our day it used to be called playing doctor,but would never have gotten as far as it did due to supervision. where were the parents all this time? Obviously this boy had been exposed or victimized him self to have such knowledge. It sounds like you have put an end to it, and gosh you both knew from the age of 10 even that there was something wrong or you would have done it right in front of the parents, children do things like that, when they do not have a clue, true you might not have known the depth of your actions, but certainly over the last 10 years of orgasims, you had a clue. Many children were exposed to something like this, I must say that I have not heard of a relationship carring on for so long, you are lucky you never got pregnant. I will be so bold as to suggest the way you view this now, is how it can impact your future. If you want to play out a role of victim, it works, but he was a victim also, due to his obvious knowledge, then you participated also. Just like two children playing with matches, you were just lucky that nothing really caught fire. You were very prematurly sexually active. You may have difficulty with boundry lines, but you are aware, thus you can make the necessary mental corrections, behavior modifacation. You now know what is right and wrong, and realize the importance of adult supervision of children, so the mistake will not be repeated with your children. Lessons. I would not give it any more signifigance than that, but that is me, being a victim does not serve me. It is a part of your past that no one needs to know about. Let it go if you can.

February 12, 2001
7:06 pm
Avatar
moredata
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 27, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I agree with molly. When I was 11 year old boy I had pretty much same kind of fantasies. My parent never discussed sex with me. But I myself was never sexually abused or seen any kind of porno type material. I guess people are born with data. Many young men may have this fantasy which is also mixed with curiosity for opposite sex. I never acted upon it until I was lot older. Since you are writing about it, this experience must not settle with you too well. See a therapist (female) You got nothing to loose. Good luck.

February 12, 2001
11:02 pm
Avatar
pg lova
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 24, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Flaggirl,

No matter what the circumstances, you were not in the wrong. Nobody was supposed to touch you like that as a child. Listen to me, don't let it eat you up, don't beat yourself up. IT's NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The fact that you are dealing with it now, will help you out later on in life. Just try to be strong. Remember what Jesus said in the scriptures "Finally Brethren, put on the full armor of God, so that in the day of evil you may take a stand and having done everything you can, just to stand." So I say to u, once you've done everything you can to put the situation behind you, just let it go and stand. Then the next time u see him, let him know that what he did was uncalled for and wrong. Let him know that it can't ever happen again and then you move on. But, do not allow it to keep hurting you. It will be all right.

God Bless,

PG Lova

PS. If you ever need to talk, just e-mail me at [email protected]

Forum Timezone: UTC -8

Most Users Ever Online: 247

Currently Online:
51 Guest(s)

Currently Browsing this Page:
1 Guest(s)

Top Posters:

onedaythiswillpass: 1134

zarathustra: 562

StronginHim77: 453

free: 433

2013ways: 431

curious64: 408

Member Stats:

Guest Posters: 49

Members: 109343

Moderators: 5

Admins: 3

Forum Stats:

Groups: 8

Forums: 74

Topics: 38532

Posts: 714177

Newest Members:

PaulineHughes, fedotyna, ValerianDazy, jhzDazy, pearDazy, dbrneczDazy

Moderators: arochaIB: 1, devadmin: 9, Tincho: 0, Donn Gruta: 0, Germain Palacios: 0

Administrators: admin: 21, ShiningLight: 572, emily430: 29

Copyright © 2019 MH Sub I, LLC. All rights reserved. Terms of Use | Privacy Policy | Cookie Policy | Health Disclaimer