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A sigh of relief from fool no longer
August 7, 2007
5:20 am
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Not sure if this is going to help anyone else but i need to express my delight. I have been stuggling with the love of my life for 3 years now, she cheated on me & left me & i have been a mess ever since...

The other day i expressed some feelings in here & got some responses that i have finally connected with. It took me a day or two but i have not been this "relaxed" in such a long time!!!

I was having an impossible time letting go of my ex... I was FILLED with anger & resentment & a desire strong desire for revenge BUT i STILL loved her & would have forgotten EVERY wrong doing just to have her back, regardless of the fact i KNEW the relationship was extremely toxic & harmful.

Co dependant????

OH YEAH!!!

So anyhoo. it was suggested to me that people come into your life for a reason. Be that good or bad, they are sent to teach you "something"... SOMEHOW i let THAT be my resolution to ALL of the suffering & hurt. I am finally at peace! I can still love her BUT also KNOW that a relationship with her at this time is NOT good for either of us... She has a hell of a lot of "growing" to do & i HAVE to find self love...where i do not RELY on her love to have "a life".

I spoke to her today & she was lost for words at my calmness. I have been so angry & so bitter for so long... and now its GONE! I told her i love her & that i am SO grateful for experiencing such an intense kind of love. Even if i NEVER love again i am grateful to have FELT the "real" thing.

She made some HUGE mistakes in our relationship & SO did i. I have learnt what i DONT want from a relationship... She has lost me in the process.. i HOPE she has learnt too.

I am READY for the next chapter of my life!

Bring it on!

fff

August 7, 2007
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am happy for you
keep up the good energy.

just remember that reletionships/emotions are not like a switch that can be turned on and off, so there are still moments you will feel lonely and wnat her beside you but I hope you will get the courage and willpower to wait for the rightone / right time.

blessings

August 7, 2007
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fff...what a great post & glad you learned something from this, a good thing...now time to focus on you and loving yourself. Keep that focus & i bet the next chapter in your life will be great!

August 7, 2007
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Wonderful, wonderful news fff!

Like wannabe said, relationships/emotions don't just stop and start, there'll be more letting go, more feelings, more to do as you move on...

But you're IN the new chapter!

Keep on! (Your post was really great to read early in the morning.)

Stay in touch 🙂

Jas

August 7, 2007
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thanks...wannabe that was wonderful how you put it. i have been wanting that quick fix of turning the switch off...but the light still flickers inside me and it won't go off with my mind switch....time...to heal....time to allow the pattern to change...i'm one of those slow learners and hope to have a sigh of relief too.

August 7, 2007
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thanks...wannabe that was wonderful how you put it. i have been wanting that quick fix of turning the switch off...but the light still flickers inside me and it won't go off with my mind switch....it takes time to heal....time to allow the pattern to change...i'm one of those slow learners and hope to have a sigh of relief too. we have to change foolfoolfool's name to wisdomking.

August 7, 2007
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(((fff))) How delighted I am for you sister!! You are right, it's time for your next chapter. Thank you for sharing your resolution with us.

I agree with lalasgirl, your name should now be Wisdomking. You have earned it 🙂

August 7, 2007
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That is wonderful news!!!! Isn't it exciting to start on a new chapter in life??!! I wish you the very best!!!

(((Fool)))

August 7, 2007
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(((fff)))

That is so great! I believe the post that helped you so much is the one that I printed out for myself too. It's amazing how the right words at the right time can help us shift our perspective and bring so much relief.

Glad you are excited about your new chapter... look forward to hearing how things are going (and also realize we will all continue to have some back-and-forth and revisiting of feelings because our path is not a linear one).

good wishes, kroika

August 7, 2007
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Amen.

My ex-wife did the same thing and I went through that in which you are going through.

You will get through it and will recover. Just be patient.

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