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A recent trip to a funeral made me realize..........
March 5, 2007
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what it is like to "step oustide of my comfort zone" and experience what a truly supportive environment looks and tastes like.

I never realized it - until now - just how isolated I have allowed myself to become.

WOW!

I even thought to myself - ever so briefly -that I was one of those narcisistic people I had come to sort of, well, despise.

What an eye-opener for me.

I've learned that you CAN let in certain safe people in. Never thought that that was possible.

This whole ordeal has really opened my eyes.

Made me think that maybe there is another sort of existence possible - one which trusts cetain people into a small circle of my life.

Feel like I am coming out of my shell in a way.

Hard to explain.....but I get I got a heavy "dose" of what family and community can really be about on a positive level through the sad advent of attending the funeral of my fiancee's father in a samll town in PA.

NOT a whole lot of chaos going on....just simple expressions of love and remiss.

I am thankful for this example of what a non-chaotic yet sad circumstance can entail.

(Am I making sense here?)

March 5, 2007
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There is always wisdom in visiting tombs and I also find hospitals another insightful place. I makes me realize that...life is too short.

Thanks (((TB))) for this insightful thread!~

March 5, 2007
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Thanks, too...I sometimes get a glimpse into normalcy and realize that it is what I want for myself. Most people are basically kind, yes they are surely at their best at a funeral, but they are there just the same too the basic goodness of most. They are the types we need to be attracted to and I don't know about you, but sometimes I wonder if I ever will.

This is a hopeful thread, thanks.

March 5, 2007
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Thanks Ras,

Your response makes me think of a great movie I saw recently with Hugh Grant.....it's called "Love Actually" further to the point - love actually exists everywhere (or something to that extent.) Have you seen the movie? It opens and closes with scenes from an airport and how you can actually experience love taking place - all around - at airports. Husbands/wives/family members/friends etc....a really great and simply profound movie in my opinion.

March 5, 2007
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starting over,

posts crossed. Thanks for responding. Yes - it's great to get a glimpse into normalcy - as you said....very well put, by the way - you nailed it right, straight and square on the head.

I could not believe how calm and non-neurotic I was!!!!!!

Incredible - really!!!!!

Do you want to know something else? Well, on Saturday afternoon, my fiancee and I took his 16 year-old daughter to a local bowling alley.

I just could not believe all of the warmth and love and ease of comfort of the families on each side of us as we bowled!!!!

The feeling in the air - to me - was electric. It was a real down-home simple affair with kids and parents....and so you know what? Not ONCE did I see a child "act-out" or squirm and complain and act bratty....you know why? Because the parent's were giving them loads of attention and just having "FUN" at the bowling alley. There was just simply spontaneous love and affection flowing back and forth between child and parent the whole time....that I felt really special to be witness to it all.

Really!

Something THAT SIMPLE at a local bowling alley.

All of these kids were obviously on "cloud nine" (song from the Temptations)in simply just "being" with their parents. I could not believe all of the positive - yet SIMPLE energy that was all around me. It even rubbed off on my fiancee and I and his wonderful 16 year old daughter.

The lesson that I havelearned is that - if you surround yourself with truly genuine people - even the simplest of things can amount to something no less than spectacular.

I am grateful for this experience of what "normalcy" can really be.

Absolutely INCREDIBLE!!!!!!!!

March 5, 2007
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No I haven't seen that movie. The only movie I saw for Hugh Grant was the one with "Funeral and wedding" something like that. There was wedding...can't remeber the rest.

If this movie you suggested TB is worth the trouble, then I would love to rent it. Love waching movies!

March 5, 2007
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Ras,

Yes. It's worth the trouble to rent. Great flick!!!!! It's called: "Love Actually"

You won't regret renting it!

March 5, 2007
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Thanks hon. I will rent that movie "Love actually" by Hugh Grant.

Thanks again TB!!!

March 5, 2007
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Ras,

Let me know what ya think - OK?

March 7, 2007
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WOW - I just can't believe it - that this sense of "normalcy" is really sticking with me.

Felt different and better all day today.

Maybe it will stick!!!!

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March 7, 2007
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(((TB))) I'm so thrilled you feel better today hon.

I will let you know about the movie ASA I see it.

Have a great evening!

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The title of your thread really hit me hard. Funeral should be an eye opener for people. My life change when a friend of mines sister died. She was a good person and it happen when she was helping someone else.
That right there made me realize that life is to short. Being depress and never happy, it made me realize that we only have one life. It is not like someone we love have return and told us that there is happiness on the other side.
I read so many thread and can hear the hurting that some of these people has and if only they knew that we only get one chance in life and it is up to us to make our life, not the other person that so many has made them there whole life. You were born in this world by yourself and we will leave this world by ourself. Life is something that we will ask why over and over again but while we are doing that, we should be enjoying our lives. You don't want to be on your death bed and think about all of the things that you SHOULD OF LET GO and that you SHOULD OF BEEN DOING.

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