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A lonely army bride's rant
December 26, 2003
3:09 pm
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Hi Ginger,

Benedryl does wonders. Well, not for me, but because of everything I'm on it would take a horse tranquilizer to put me to sleep. But... I give them to the dogs for sedation - like the plane trip today.

Occasionally, my husband will take one to sleep. We buy them at Walmart, just their store brand. We all need to get a good nights rest to live successfully day to day. Without it life is just that much harder. That I can tell you from experience.

However, if you are having to consistantly use something to sleep, look at what the greater issue might be.

I know you are worried about your husband, and you have every reason to be. Thank him for me for serving our country. Really appreciate him, yes, I do! Too many people do not understand the reality of what we are doing over there. My sister and her husband work in "Intelligence" and they cannot disclose all that they know, but they have both said that "Saddam and Bil Laden make Hitler look like a school girl" - which is a scary thought.

If you are up nights, you might just catch me as I'm a night owl. Also, being back on treatment too many nights are sleepless.

I hope you are well today, and I hope you enjoyed your time with your husband. As I said before, we all go through periods of that "sexual desert" - at least in my experience I have. We have times when some times just being with each other in the same bed is just as satisfying - even with two dogs between us! Just relax and take it one day at a time.

Here if you need to talk.

Love ya,


December 26, 2003
4:27 pm
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My Mom calls Bendryl and xanax "dirty drugs" for some reason. There are good sleep aids available, you have to describe the problem to your primary care provider. Self-medicating in any form will only make things worse in the long run. Heck, I started my divorce process in August and I was happily self-medicating with alcohol. But when my seizures became so frequent that I had to stop, dealing with the issues were terrible - worse I think than if I'd just dealt with it then. But it's your call. Going with something herbal might be a better route. But as with all medicinal aids, any longer than 7 days straight that there's a problem.

Anyways, it took me over a year to plan my wedding. It was a great party, too, if I do say so myself. Everything went off without a hitch except for the minister's wife smelling a group of my friends smoking a joint at the reception in the parking lot.

I actually had to book my photographers over a year in advance because the good ones are always taken up like that. I had Stuart Powers photograph - he's won the national award for best wedding album like 8 years in a row or something. Anyways, there's some competition, so look around and find out who scored high in your area. I think Stuart Powers travels all over the country, but he is really really really expensive. I got him cheap because he lives near my town in FL. I can't say enough about him. My marriage might be on the rocks, but the album - you always have! ha ha ha

Good luck, I'm sure things will turn out fine.

December 28, 2003
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Ginger, I havent been here in a while, so I didn't know you got married. Congrats.

My dad was Air Force for 20 years. He left alot. It was normal for me, because I was born into it, but I can't speak for wives.

Beeing a newlywed is hard enough, but then you throw in the Army and TDY and it makes it even harder. Hang in there and take it easy, go to Yoga or the gym for some stress relief.

I have an orange cat who steals toys from my sons room and hides them in my bathroom. He also steals all of my combs. He prefers toilet water instead of his fresh, clean water. And my Siamese cat goes around the house trying to burry everything. He sits on the dining room table and stares at me like he is challenging me whenever he gets into trouble.

December 29, 2003
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Thanks to all of you for the support, from all of you, it is wonderful, my family here who understands when my biological family just doesn't get it. *smile* You guys are the best.

Husband was here since Christmas, and we had a nice few days together, but they were over so fast, and now I will only get to see him once more at the send off ceremony before he is gone. I am so happy that we married, and although our relationship isn't perfect (no one is), we certainly do have something special.

I've been really reflective over this holiday season. I realize how spoiled I have become, and how much I take for granted. Everything from the warm house I am in now, and the happy furry mammals that are purring in my ear and on my feet now, to the computer I type on, to how healthy I feel, despite not being the "perfect" weight... I need these times of "character building" to remind me of how lucky I am. I remember low points in my life, from where I was in the hospital for 2 weeks solid and swore if I was ever able to walk on my own again or pee like a normal human I would never take life for granted again. Guess what I did! And when I hit emotional rock bottom after a really crappy relationship, I swore I would be grateful for what I had. How quickly I forget things. I just need to stay focused, the year will pass, he will be home, and I can get back to bitching about him leaving the toilet seat up or not cleaning the cat box.

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