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A happy day, but at what cost?
May 19, 2004
4:02 pm
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NOLAcy
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Today has been a wonderful day for me. I didn't cry myself to sleep. I didn't wake up crying and I have been productive at work. But.... The reason for my joy is that my ex called last night and asked if he could come over. He did, and he apologized for being such a jerk the last several weeks. He ended up spending the night (nothing happened). But, I felt safe and I felt validated that he apologized. My only concern is this: just as he has the power to make me sad, he has the power to make me happy - so I am not really any better off am I?

I don't anticipate that we will mend things, but the apology makes me feel much better.

Is that because i am still codependent?

May 19, 2004
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apologies are nice, just be careful and make sure (if you choose to stay with him) that he changes for the long run, not just for a few weeks. Take things slow and go by your gut instincts!!!

May 19, 2004
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NOLAcy there is nothing wrong with feeling good because he apologised. Of course you feel validated. You feel you were the one who was wronged.

My advice is take is slow and careful. If you two have a real chance of getting back together and making it work, this is your opportunity to really set some boundaries for yourself.

It is very scary when you give somebody the power to put you in a sad or happy mood. Good luck, I hope you get a happy outcome. 🙂

May 20, 2004
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no you have the power, because your the one giving him the power, to affect how you feel.

know what i mean?

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