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A guy freind at work ask me out to dinner should I go
October 30, 2006
10:36 pm
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It has been a hard 5weeks. Finding out my husband cheated on me his women friend bothering me I think I should have some fun what do you think

October 31, 2006
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Moey -

Follow your heart/gut instinct. If you have peace about it, go ahead....but do not do things out of revenge or to get even with your hubby or to tease him.

Blessings, Ras~

October 31, 2006
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I think workplace romances are risky. If it doesn't work, what do you do.

Is there any supervisory/managerial relationship between you that might create an appearance of conflict of interest or sexual harassment?

October 31, 2006
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as long as you go out, just for friends, and that's all......cuz i am sure you are not ready for a new relationship........just go out and have fun!!!!

October 31, 2006
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My suggesion is to think about it. Is this guy friend interested in you other than friendship. In the workplace, when a guy asked you for dinner it means a date. Lunch is still can be work related but dinner is different. If you are still with your husvand and still grieving, this might not be the kind of fun you need at this time. An eye for an eye rarely works out. It is natural I would think to want some revenge if you are still angry. It might not be good idea to get out there in this way because if this guy is interested in you because you are newly single then it would not be fair to him. You do have to go with your gut instinct. I just know dating isn't so great for some when not completely healed from the hurt suffered. It cause more complications most of the time, which is not needed. I hope I am making sense. Just be careful when making decisions based on emotion.

October 31, 2006
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We all want and need deversions from our problems, but you may just be adding to your problems right now.
I would suggest a lunch with this guy and forget about a dinner.

Atalose

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November 2, 2006
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This is hard. I want to go out but I think it just because I want to get back at my husband for cheating.

November 2, 2006
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Not a real good reason....

November 2, 2006
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good for you ! so have that dinner (maybe lunch, too) - enjoy your steak (or fish) - and after you´ve had - and foremost, enjoyed your little pleasures, you get to suffer from acute memory-loss ... which unfortunately ... leaves you incapable of telling anybody where you have been the last xx hrs or so ...

- rejoice in your "badness" - ahhhh !

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November 3, 2006
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Ohhh mannnn! work place dating is tooo dangerous. You are playing with fire. If it is love at first site type thing and it works out, one of you would be very super smart to quit and work somewhere else. I have done it, I was always accused of talking with this one girl too much etc. They don't realize, work is work and it is not about picking up others. It was very hard to be real at work without someone else watching me(the girlfriend). So, i suggest no dating anybody at work. NOT GOOD....

November 3, 2006
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I say go out to dinner, but invite some other friends from work too. Don't make it a date, especially if you're married.

Dating at work is a bad idea, but being friends with co-workers isn't.

November 3, 2006
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That is how of affairs start. And plus it look bad to others in the workplace. People do indeed whisper or can be made to feel uncomfortable. At my work I think these two married people are having an affiar with each other. He is always in her office many hours at a time, not doing his job and they laugh and carry on and flirt. I always feel very uncomfortable when stepping into the room like I am interrupted something. It is not my business at all but it does affect others around you. Plus they both have what appears perfect lives and looks like they are just having something on the side. You should do what is right for you, what is morally good for you. Just because your husband decided to do something not right does not mean you should compromise yourself and what you believe in just to get back at him. Because once you cheat on him, there is no going back to turn it around and you will never be able to say you were faithful either. Plus what does it say about this guy that you go out with and knows you are married? Doesn't he care what he is doing? How can you respect him as well if you call other woman a tramp and then you turn around and go to dinner with a man who is willing to go out with you married or not? Is he not a tramp too? Would it not be a double standard? Two wrongs do not make a right. I hope your work out your feelings and earn the trust back but not for anyone but yourself. Big a strong person and trust your own instincts. You going to make it whether you feel like it now or not. You really will Moey!

November 5, 2006
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It just nice to have someone notice me after my husband treated like shit and still does. its nice support

November 5, 2006
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If your husband is treating you like shit, then it is not just the affair that you are crying over. Have you thought about divorcing this man? Why are you subjecting yourself to all this? You can get support either here or from friends or family. You'd be happier on your own. This waiting around for him to treat you better might not ever happen. In fact, I would think he would treat you better after what he did to you. Instead he is making it worse. you deserve to be happy and free to find someone else who would treat you better if that is something you would want in your life. It is obvious you can still attract another man. I realize you do not say very much on these threads but I can tell what little you do say, that this husband of yours is not a nice man, and you seem sweet. I don't think it is just your husband's affair that is destroying you. It is the way he treats you. Try some counseling. For yourself.

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