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A car wrecked my life
January 17, 2001
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Just this weekend, I was in a car accident when my brakes gave out on the hill. Now, I am severly traumatized about having to drive and I don't feel as though I will ever again. My friends came by to see me recently and explained to me that everything would be all right. While that helps some, I really am terrified of driving. I almost killed myself and close to 10 other people. Someone please write me if you know of anything that can help me overcome this anxiety. Thanks.

January 17, 2001
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Post - trumatic stress?

Time will help u, Eventually u will feel stronger. Afterall, u need a rest you've just had a near miss!!

Take your time and bit by bit get into the car, e.g just sit in it,
ride round the block, wait until your confidence comes back.

good luck

January 17, 2001
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count your blessings, be grateful

January 17, 2001
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Remember it was the CAR that malfunctioned, not you. Every time we drive we put our faith in our cars, in the people who built,designed, repaired them and all the car's parts. Now you are morbidly aware that you cant always trust in that. But you can learn to trust responsibly again, it will take some work and time, though, so be patient with yourself. Remember it was the CAR that was untrustworthy-- not you. I'm so glad that you and everyone else involved is OK. Dont rush to drive, but do take some steps like Lewis suggested. Kinda like gettin back in the saddle...

YEEEHAAW!!!

January 17, 2001
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I firmly believe that when you get tossed off the horse, you need to get back on. The longer you wait, the harder it will be, you know what is best for you. Get in the car, and just start the engine, then park in the drive way, then go around the block, then more, and more and more. Do not honor fear, honor what is. You need to be able to get in the darn thing and drive in the event, you need to get some where now. Stuff happens it is part of life, and life goes on with you or with out you. This could turn into a sever handicap for you that may not need to be. It could just be a lesson, was there any sign of brake problems before that you ignored, was there a service that you put off?? If it was a fluke thing, then that is all it was a mechanical mal function. Caution, not cessation is what the response can be. It is very scarey what you went through, and thank God all is ok, and you will be too.

January 18, 2001
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When you think about driving and when you approach your car,try to relax.Make deep breath and relax your muscles. Concentrate on driving not on your fears.

Good Luck.

January 18, 2001
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hello pg,
if you feal fear then allow yourself to do so. period. Don't belittle your feelings by thinking that you 'rationally' aren't entitled to be afraid, just because everybody else drives and you need to drive. Give yourself time, admit it to yourself when you are s* scared of driving. Find a reliable driver who takes you for the most necessary things. Take a good look at it and take your time - it can be quite an interesting challenge to find other ways of going places. Driving can be dangerous (but, well, living IS dangerous every minute), but you'll be able to drive again - only don't force yourself too soon into something you aren't comfortable whith.

January 18, 2001
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Thank you all for your support! I am just writing you let you know that I am doing better now somewhat. But, there is still one question in my mind about all of this. Why? I keep replaying the incident in my head in an attempt to figure out why it happened. I know that God had a purpose and I firmly believe that, but what was it? My wounds have almost healed and I have done some driving since the ordeal to try and shake off my fear, but I still can't for the life of me figure out why it happened.

January 19, 2001
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Sometimes the "why" isn't obvious in the present, sometimes it takes time to gain perspective and see what has come of it. Sometimes we don't ever know, and we have to trust the firm belief that even though we don't see it, it will be used for some purpose.

Sounds so philosophical... Just don't spend too much time and energy trying to figure it out. Like the tootsie pop commercial says, "The world may never know." Don't let it shake your faith. Proud of you for the progress you're making! Way to go!

January 19, 2001
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I agree with Ima. Asking why isn't very productive. I mean, we don't ask the rape victim why her rapist attacked her (unless you are one of those morons who believes that rape is a sexual thing, ug ug ug).

God, being the infinite being that he is, obviously doesn't think like a human being. God is so immense that he is beyond our range of conceptual thinking. So...whatever God's will is, we can only hope to comprehend a tiny it of that will. And continually strive to know more. But if your striving, strive to know God by listening to God (meditating) AND talking to God (praying).

January 19, 2001
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Some babies come out of the womb going waaaaaa, I came out asking whyyyyyy. We don't always get the answer, or we have to wait until the answer is revealed. It could be as simple as take the car in for a service more often, but congrats on the progress, and remember, accidents just happen sometimes.

January 24, 2001
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Thank everyone who has helped me out through this time. While it was rough, your advice, the love of God, and the yprayers of my friends and family have hlped to sustain me. I am pleased to report that I am now doing fine and have almost fully recovered. I am able to drive no matter how long or short the distance. The only handicap now is inclimate weather. When that happens, I just don't get behind the wheel.

God bless U All! With Much love,
PG Lova

January 30, 2001
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Hi Everyone!

Just another note of thanks from PG Lova. Thanks for being there for me. I now have a new car and I am completely stable in terms of driving. Thanks again! God bless you all!!!!!!!

February 1, 2001
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well done, pg! And: not driving in bad wheather would be a good outcome of your encounter, because it means you are keeping yourself safer now. So you might even have found the sense you were looking for 🙂

February 3, 2001
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pj, in other threads you give others advise that comes from religious sources,.Where was your faith when this incident happened?

February 5, 2001
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Counslr,

When this incident happened, I put my full faith in God, that was the only way I got through the initial crash. RIght before the collision, I yelled "Please Lord Jesus!" and from that point on, I could do nothing else. The paramedic told me that it had to have been JEsus with me because had I not been wearing my seatbelt I would have died. Also, my friend who didn't have on her seatbelt was not ejected from the car and again I said thank u LOrd. Now, after the accident, I was extremely traumatized by all that had gone on. I was upset that so many people were involved in the accident and I didn't know how they were doing. Mostly, I was upset that there were small children involved in the accident. As I laid there thanking God even on the hospital stretcher tears rolled down my face. THese tears symbolized not having lost my faith in God, but my being upset that the incident happened.

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