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40 yr old men living with their mother plz help me or anyone plz help
January 6, 2006
5:21 am
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Hi everyone,

I am kinda new to this site but i need some advice. My babies dad left us a few months ago, 2 months to be precise, my question is how does a man who once hated living with his mother suddenly seem to be fine with it? Spending time taking her shopping etc etc, watching movies with her? What happened to this man? He comes over often and the change in him has shocked me to the point where i brought it up today, u see he is looking for a place and i asked him if he is taking his mother and he just kinda ummed and aaaghed .. it didnt go down well when i said 'how are u suddenly so content to live with ur mother' he said who says i am content' does someone know whats happened to my babies dad? Is it cause he lives like a king? Gets waited on hand and foot, this lady used to drive him mad. I really cant understand it....

January 6, 2006
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I had to laugh at my title, someone who lives with their mother in their 40's still.... plz help me ... anyone help meeeeeeeeeeee understand this madness

January 6, 2006
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hi Alycia...i know alot of people over the age of 38 who live a home with mommmy............i don't mean to say it so sarcastically, but i think any "adult" should be able to care for themselves on their own, and take on the responsibility of bills and doing things on their own.

Maybe your guy is getting dinners cooked for him and i am sure he pays
hardly anything for rent.........it seems very hard for me to understand
but these are ADULTS being cared for
by their parents, like they are kids.........maybe its time for your
babys dad to grow up, get a place of his own and face the real world.

(((camer)))

January 6, 2006
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Well, I think there are lots of reasons "men" of this age live with their mommies...maybe he's not really capable of taking care of himself, maybe he's afraid of being alone, maybe (as it was in my case when I filed for divorce) mommy is "charging" him $900 per month "rent" which she turned around and used to furnish his new house after the divorce was final. Maybe he's doing it to drive you nuts, knowing that he told you how much he hated his mom, and now he's just peachy living with her. He's sending you a message that his mom is easier to live with than you, just to get your goat. Who knows...what's important is that you don't let it bother you and you move past it.

January 6, 2006
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If you did understand exactly why, what would you do with that?

Is this about him, or is it about you?

He left you and you are wondering how he can live w/ his mother? Isn't the more obvious question, what about how his leaving has affected you?..How are YOU doing? what about YOU?

-gwhw
(a man about to turn 40 who, when separated, refused to move back in w/ his mother - on general principles! I love my mother, but I'll stand on my own two feet ty very much.)

January 6, 2006
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Thanks everyone for ur replies, i do agree with u camer inparticular and i do agree with all of you, i know there are numerous reasons but mostly to glittered, i really dont know why i give a rats to be honest with you. Maybe its cause he knows it does get me but at the same time its cause he has nowhere to go, when i think about it he always ran to mama when we would have a problem and in past relationships he once called his mum 12 hrs away to come back and live with him after his last partner left him. I guess its always there but he put on some kinda i dont need my mum act... The answer was always there i guess staring at me, i do look forward to the day where anything happening in his life doesn't phase me anymore and i have no idea why i give a damn.... thank u everyone

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