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30 days ONE month no contact
January 28, 2005
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Well I am starting this post with the encouragement of DTEE which was actually HIS brilliant idea. I would like to make this a post that basically states 30 days no more contact. AFter my situation last night, I think I need it.

January 28, 2005
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I am in for 30 days. Aces you are a great person. We can do this. I'm interested to see who is going to make this commitment. Good job Aces

PEACE...and good luck to all those who sign up here.

January 28, 2005
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So PROUD of you...and Aces I have to say this...as this would be a good time...I have noticed such a change in you this past month, postive changes. You seem more secure and stronger. I was not sure why, but this must be it....SO CONGRATS, you made it, you are an inspiration to those who struggle with the same...AWESOME!!

January 28, 2005
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Hi Aces,

Well, obviously I've got a looooong way to go before I qualify to post on the 30 days no contact.

But I will try harder than I've ever tried before.

Hopefully you'll see my post on this thread in 28 days 🙂

January 28, 2005
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I am up for it - absolutely no contact for 30 days, it will be refreshing

January 28, 2005
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12 more days for me to go. I should stop having weird dreams about my ex by then, shouldn't I??? Ugh.

January 28, 2005
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Aces..what happened last night?

January 28, 2005
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oh crap, you guys are a million times stronger than I ever could be!!! Dale and I haven't gone 30 days without talking in the 4 years we've known each other!! Even after breaking up, threatening my life, wished I would get cancer and die of an early age, called me a whore, told me he wanted me out of his life forever and many other horrible things....the most we've gone without any communication has been maybe two weeks!!!

January 28, 2005
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Always....Sounds like you need to bear-down and make it for another 2 weeks longer than your record. It will be refreshing...You can do it

January 28, 2005
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So Please help me out,

I work with my nemisis, literally within the same office space, ten feet away from each other.

I know that is one reason why all of this has been so hard for me to get over and move beyond.

His lovely new life, with his lovely new codependent wife is shoved in my face everyday I am at work.

Oh there is so much more to my story and I keep waiting for me to have the time to write the history because it is long.

When I feel strong, he senses it and lures me right back to him. He goes outside to talk to his new wife for the 7th or 8th in a day, comes back in the office and flirts with me, touches me. I have never had the ability to say no to him or to anyone.

I disgust myself sometimes with what I allow him to do to me, with the fact that I care, with all that I've done.

I need serious help!!!!

Thank goodness he is off today, I feel at peace in my office for once.

So much for being friends with an ex-lover, it really doesn't work, I give and give and give, he takes and takes and hurts and hurts. But he doesn't have to care because his life right now is beautiful and wonderful and he's in love.

Kudos to all of you, eventhough I'm new to this board, from what I've read so far, some on you have come so far and have gained so much strength.

January 28, 2005
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I really wish I could...but I can't even go one freaking day yet...:-( And next week is my bday and I'm hoping he will want to take me out to lunch.

January 28, 2005
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I hate to throw a wrench into this. But can we post WHY we are not contacting? Because I am not certain it is a bad idea for me. I base my no contact decision on low self esteem, rather than it would be bad for me. I am afraid of rejection...my problem...a problem to move through, solve, gain perspective about. So not contacting could be more of a personal thing?

January 28, 2005
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Always....I'll buy you lunch for your birthday. Your birthday is the perfect time to have no contact. Think of the control you can take for yourself. No contact over your birthday will really make him think. I don't think you could find a better time than now to implement "Always 30 day vacation" Just like Lake Wineposoki (SP?) (What About Bob reference) Dr. Marvin!.....Dr. Leo Marvin!.....Sorry about that...anyway you can do this if you want to. Good luck w/ whatever you decide.

January 28, 2005
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This thread isn't for those that have gone 30 days its for those that want to go 30 days, and starry I wrote what happened under she will be loved, it just don't want to go into it all over again.

January 28, 2005
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Hey Aces....in that case - I'm in!!

January 28, 2005
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Count me in...and peace and strength to you all..

The purpose of the 30-day no contact is pretty much this...

"Freedom from Emotional Bondage"

Am I right?

Rock

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