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((((1lost1)))) thinking about you tonight...hope you're ok
May 20, 2006
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1L1,

There are times when it's tough being a guy. Your ex gives us all a bad name. I'm ashamed of him. You deserve soooo much better than the likes of him.

Shaking his head......Lt

May 21, 2006
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1lost1..

By the way..how is the infection? I forgot to ask you that earlier. I hope you are feeling better...when do you have another dr appt..soon I hope.

Hope you enjoy your weekend. Take care and enjoy your little girl 🙂

Love..Soul

May 21, 2006
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lost...I think I understand what that "someone" meant when they said you want your ex to "see" you. I think it's the same reason I put up with so much abuse and crazymaking in my 17 year marriage. Each and every time he would screw up, he would come back as if everything was normal again...and I would forget anything had ever happened. I thought it was all going to be better after that, and that he would appreciate me, and love me, and value me, and "see" me for who I was and what I needed in our marriage. I prayed that he would, actually. I think I was looking for his approval, for him to see what a good wife he had, and to realize he could lose it. It never happened. I still wish that he would see what a good person I am, and how much he has lost. He never will. It hurts, but you have to move on. You cannot control his thoughts, or actions. He will continue his pattern of self-destruction, and will never realize how truly special you are. Let it go, you deserve so much better. That is such a hard lesson to learn, but you truly deserve to be someone's #1, their first choice, their first priority...not someone to use and toss away. (((lost))) You will find that person...

May 21, 2006
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1L1, ready,

You are both wonderful ladies and deserve better than you've received. I know what it means to crave someone's approval. It's a codependent trait. I know in my mind that my wife will never appreciate the real me, but my heart still follows that dream. It's hard to let go, no matter how much we have been and continue being hurt. Right now, I pray that we each find the patience we need to get us through the loneliness we feel without giving in to those who would exploit us.

Peace & strength for us all.....Lt

May 22, 2006
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Hiall, I am feeling better, thanks. I have another Dr appointment tomorrow.

We will see. I have to contact the Oncologist, putting that one off for a while. Just spending time with my kids and family.

Post to you later...Thanks all!!!

May 22, 2006
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(((1l1))) prayers still going up for you today...hang in there, and know you are loved!

May 22, 2006
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Thank you ready...I have had a pretty good day today. No one really brought my problem up which is nice.

My ex was even nice to me at work today. He has been attempting to befriend my friends by playing practical jokes. Weird child!

Hope you are doing well.

Thank you for the kindness...1L1

May 23, 2006
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(((1L1))) I hope your day is going well. Your recovery is important to me.

Lt

May 24, 2006
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Hello Lt, Thank you for the hug. I needed it.

I am worried about you. If you needed anything, you know where to find me.

Big squeeze and a wink from the SW.

May 25, 2006
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Hey 1L1,

Thank you for the squeeze & wink. I hope your weekend goes well. Things are a little rocky with me right now, but I'm surviving. Thank goodness I still have the apartment to which I can retreat and lock the door.

It's warmer here in the East, but nothing like the SW...yet!

Have a great night......Lt

May 25, 2006
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1lost1,

How are things going? Do you have an oncology appointment set yet? Keep us updated on everything..so we know how you are...Ok?

Thank you for posting to me in regard to the baby's dad..and court. I really appreciate that you take the time...when I know you are going through some much of your own.

Peace and strength...Soul

May 25, 2006
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(((soul))) I will be there for you if you need me. Some days are a little better then others but I will always be around for you.

I am not scheduling my appointment until my son leaves in June for the Air Force. I am spending time with the kids. Right now that is more important.

Lt...I am glad you have a sanctuary in which to hide. I worry about you. Remember that you are a kind, dear much adored person here. We will overcome these obsticles.

My thoughts are with you both...Keep well! 1L1

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