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18 months of Court Ordered No Contact.....(Mich)
July 13, 2009
4:01 pm
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Well, now doesn't that make it easy??

His sentencing was today for the domestic assault. He was sentenced to 18 months of probation. He has to take a 52 week domestic assault class (since the first 26 week course he took didn't seem to do the trick), he has to do random drug and alcohol testing and whatever. The judge asked me if I was ok with the no contact order staying in place (as requested by the PO) and I said that was fine. I don't have any desire to talk to him, but, that just makes a VERY clear boundary. I can appreciate that. There is still a PPO in place as well, but that will end in November I believe.

We went through the conciliation hearing last week. Thankfully because of the PPO it had to be done separately. She was sure that all his visitation with the kids would have to be supervised and that this would turn out the way that I hoped. I filed for full legal and physical custody of the kids. I think that the kids (at least the younger three) need to see their dad...but, I fought to get it supervised. I don't trust him any farther than I can throw him at this point.

Anyway...I am doing ok. Better than most thought that I would be at this point. Yes, I have some tough moments...but, I will get through them all. I still do NOT regret the choice that I made to leave. I am just tired of the crap, and I want my life to be different....at ANY cost.

Anyway...there is an update of some kind. Hope all here are doing well....

Mich

July 13, 2009
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Thanks for the update. I predict that you will surprise yourself with how successful you will become now that you have taken the first few steps. Good luck!!!!

Bitsy

July 13, 2009
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Mich. It sounds like you are doing a whole world better than the last time I checked in with you. I am happy to hear that you are making progress. You go girl!

July 14, 2009
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Thanks Bitsy...No doubt, this will only better my life.

Thumkin...how are you my friend? I am doing great. My life is in a different place. I am so thankful for the fact that I am out of that marraige. Divorce is never a pleasant thing I don't think...as there are moments of sadness. BUT...my over riding emotion is probably relief. I am thankful to be away from the abuse...and now maybe I will be free to be me...who I really am. I am blessed for that.

What is going on with you?? What is new in your life?? How are the kids??

July 14, 2009
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Hey. My girls are all doing really good right now. I went through a horrible period with my oldest and a 20 year old. The laws in MO really made me mad. Then there was almost an incident with my 13 yr old and a 20 yr. old. At that point I was ready to kill someone.

BUT. We are all doing great now! Kinda. I am enjoying that new found freedom of just being me also. And the more I learn who I am the more I think I like it. Of course there is some of me I dont really care for, but nobodies perfect. I am going through a shaky thing right now, not horrible, just has me scared. But I am not running and so far I have not made any horrid backsteps.

But anyway. I am so happy to hear that you are doing okay. I have often wondered about you and how you were doing.

July 14, 2009
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I am glad to hear that you are finding a you that you are starting to enjoy. I am as well...and it has been just a short time. I can't wait to see what the future holds. I am really looking forward to it.

That isn't good with the 20/13 year old thing. That is kind of scary. I would be ready to kill someone as well I think.

You are right...nobody is perfect. We are all a work in progress. As long as we are headed in the right direction...I guess that is the major thing right now.

It is nice to talk to you again as well. I wasn't around for a while after getting myself in trouble here. Due to the situation at hand, I am blessed that I was given the right to return. I still need support, and there isn't a question there.

The best thing is though...even though there are still issues no doubt, I have come a LONG way from where I was a couple of years ago. I have such a better idea of who I am and the potential that I have as a person, as a mom, as a friend....and the list goes on.

It is so nice to hear from you. I was pleasantly surprised to see your name!!

((((Thumpkin)))))

You know what is funny...this will put a time table on it for ya....on the 31st of this month...my son will be 3. (My baby) It was the day after that I had my tubes tied. Isn't that the conversation that we started talking about??? Hmmmm.....

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