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1.FIRST TIME<<<<<<<<< need advise
January 14, 2002
9:39 pm
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jpeel99
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I have a revelation today. There ARE people out there like me. I have these same compulsive behaviors and I don't know what to do. I am actually married and I am driving my husband crazy. I'm afraid that he will walk out the door if I don't do something quick. My life revolves around him and I am not happy unless he is with me. When I am with my freinds, I count the seconds until I get back home with him. When he does any little thing that proves to be something that doesn't have to do with me....I loose it. I've snapped in front of everyone one he knows.....including his brother and sister, PLEASE HELP

January 15, 2002
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I'm not trying to be harsh, but you need to get a life of your own. Get your own hobbies, interests, activities apart from your hubby. You'll both be happier. I was the same way with my "boyfriend". I wanted to be with him all the time and it bent me out of shape that he could go on skiing trips without me and be perfectly happy. I hate to ski but I wanted to go with him just to be around him. He didn't want me to go because he felt obligated to stay with me and he wouldn't ski, thus he didn't have a lot of fun on the trips. I started doing things that interested me, having fun even when I wasn't with him and it actually improved our relationship. He stopped feeling smothered by me, I stopped being so dependent on him for happiness.

January 15, 2002
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You can kill what love there is with this type of behavior, its like sucking the life out of them at the end of the day, its just so exhausting. There are several books on the subject, several free groups out there, and you can start just by letting it go. You know when you get that paranoid feeling, do some yoga, deep breathing, go to the gym to do it meet some other people, get involved, take other classes, develop your own interests, just like the post above suggested. Just relax, and try to trust, have confidence in your self as a partner, as a person, just let go of the fear.

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