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Teens cutting themselves
January 22, 2011
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BabblingIdiot
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My middle daughter went through this whole cutting thing and so I took everything that she could cut with away. This worked for a while and now sometimes she still cuts. I talked to an adult that I knew that used to cut himself and he said that they cut to forget the pain of something else at first and then it becomes an addiction because of the chemical that the body produces when it is hurt. Has anyone else had this problem? Do you know if what he told me is true?

January 22, 2011
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I have dealt with this some with my daughter. She said when she does it, it is to have a pain that masks, or supercedes, other pain, so I think you were told correctly there. I'm not sure yet the best way to approach it.

January 22, 2011
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It is a scary event, that is for sure, and what is even scarier is how wide spread cutting really is.  It is difficult to imagine the mind making someone feel so emotionally bad that they prefer the physical pain.

January 23, 2011
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I know exactly what he is talking about. im a cutter too, im a 13 year old girl. yes its true, we cut because it relieves the pain we feel on the inside. i think you should talk to her, calmly. try to know what is bothering her, and help her through it, so she wouldnt have a reason to cut. I know that it would absolutly kill me if my mother knew i cut, and she totally ignored it. so you should talk to her, so she doesnt feel alone anymore. Even if you took away everything she can cut with, there is always something else to use. I hope for you both the best of luck! Let us know what happens!

January 23, 2011
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Just a note - it isn't always *emotional* pain the cutter is escaping. My daughter has all-over physical pain (I suspect fibromyalgia or something similar, though she has not yet been diagnosed), and the localized pain tends to give some relief, oddly. (Note: this doesn't mean I condone it, or am not addressing it; just that this is her reason for it, when I discovered it was happening).

January 23, 2011
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TJ1147 said:

I know exactly what he is talking about. im a cutter too, im a 13 year old girl. yes its true, we cut because it relieves the pain we feel on the inside. i think you should talk to her, calmly. try to know what is bothering her, and help her through it, so she wouldnt have a reason to cut. I know that it would absolutly kill me if my mother knew i cut, and she totally ignored it. so you should talk to her, so she doesnt feel alone anymore. Even if you took away everything she can cut with, there is always something else to use. I hope for you both the best of luck! Let us know what happens!


TJ, thanks for coming forward, I appreciate this so much. I am sure your mother would be really worried about you just like I am worried about my daughter. We saw a doctor and he wants her to go to therapy and she begged me not to take her. We have an agreement that she can always come to me with anything. I will give her my opinion and it will be up to her if she takes it. I also want you to know TJ that we are all here for you.

January 23, 2011
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Alise said:

Just a note - it isn't always *emotional* pain the cutter is escaping. My daughter has all-over physical pain (I suspect fibromyalgia or something similar, though she has not yet been diagnosed), and the localized pain tends to give some relief, oddly. (Note: this doesn't mean I condone it, or am not addressing it; just that this is her reason for it, when I discovered it was happening).


Alise, as someone who suffers from wide spread pain, fibromyalgia, I can understand her frustration. I do hope you are able to get her diagnosed soon and the doctor will give her something to help with this pain.

January 25, 2011
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You know what, there are also some people who cut due to unexpressed emotions such as anger, frustration and even emptiness.  And most often than not, self-cutting is an indicator that there are other mental problems such as depression, bipolar and other similar conditions.  It could also be a sign that they experienced a traumatic experience like abuse.  So it is best that you talk it out with your daughter or have a professional see her.

January 26, 2011
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From all I have heard they are exactly right.  They have pain inside and they are trying to get rid of the pain.  They cut to let the pain out, only it does not let it out it only hurts.  My daughter had a friend that did this and it was so sad.  I say go to counseling with your daughter.  Don't let it go too far.

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