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Older Brother making our family break apart.
March 17, 2014
10:43 pm
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So, to start. I'm 23 years old. I live with my parents because I'm still in school and because of another family crisis that happened almost 2 years ago.


My sister-in-law died from Pneumonia, 3 months pregnant. She was okay for the first part of December, but got worse and by the time New Year's Eve came, she passed away. It was a horrible blow in our family and my brother was broken to pieces. He was so depressed and cried all the time after that, we came in to help him. We took him and his two children in, a 4 year old girl (Now 5) and a 2 year old boy (now 3). So we took care of the house and children, while he was depressed. For the first month or so, he was okay. He was nice to us and accepted our help with gratitude. We tried our best to keep everything afloat, but soon it got worse. He has this sort of personality that changes as he gets what he wants. First he's nice to you, then as soon as he gets what he wants, he asks for more. But as soon as you refuse him, he starts to show his true self. My father started to tell him he couldn't help him fincially any more because most of the money he gives him, ran out in a day. He would buy himself nice things with my dad's money and we would be left out in the cold. The girl needed new shoes for school, we had to wait for a month to be able to get her shoes because my dad gave a lot of his paycheck to my brother and he was sporting a new watch.

As soon as my dad said no, he started to yell and scream. He would sometimes cry his eyes out, or even cuss at everyone. But then he would leave and it was okay. But then the verbal abuse began.


He started with my mom, telling her horrible things. My mother lost 2 children before my brother and I and it has hurt her since then. He would bring her that topic up and tell her that was the only time she felt death. And would continue to tell her she's a horrible bitch and made her cry after he left.

I would get mad, then come and try to defend my mother. But then I became the next victim, and still am. He has had this horrible hatred towards me, getting mad at me and yelling at me for everything. If I didn't get him what he wanted, he would start to scream at me and calling me a bitch, told me once he hoped I died early like his wife did and even one time threw a CD at my face that left a red mark for a while. He would start to maniuplate my dad to stop helping me and throw me out so he can get all the money he needs and not me. Or sometimes he would go to my room and start nicely, then get mad as soon as he saw my laptop or iPad, telling me that nothing is mine that I'm a selfish little bitch.

Then my father became the last victim. He would start to yell and scream at my father, and sadly my dad would give him the benefit of the doubt and still help him.

Thankfully he's hasn't been any worse to the children, but he's had spanked them for not telling him that they love him. The children are pretty angry at him and often scream at him to stop fighting with us. But when no one hears them, they just go to their bed and cry because they don't like the fighting.

We have tried to reason with him, but he doesn't want to listen. We have tried to talk to my dad to make him stop helping him, but no dice. He would just get mad at us and won't talk to us for days. We don't know what to do.

I've been wanting to call the Abuse Hotline or even the cops, but my father has treathen to kick me out for doing that. So I'm in the end of my rope...

Please help.Cry

March 18, 2014
5:26 am
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You are old enough to make the decision to move out and live your own life. All of the adults in this situation are there by choice.  If there are any issues of child abuse you can call the authorities to protect the children.

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