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Never thought I would come on a forum for advice on sister-in-law drama..Help please!!!!!
July 3, 2011
1:21 pm
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mav896
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For the past year, my husband and I have been living in a home with my brother-in-law (15 years old) , sister-in-law (20 years old) and her 1 year old baby (my niece). My husband and I split rent and utility bills and also provide transportation for my sister-in-law. She has never helped pay rent or the utility bills and has never provided gas money. I've driven her on numerous occasions to buy food for her baby, milk, and trips to the hospital for the baby. I've also watched her baby for free and taken her to and from work at late hours of the night. Recently, she recieved a car for free from her cousin. The car is still uninsured and not registered. My sister-in-law does not even have a permit nor knows how to drive. The following day I took the car to work because my car was in the shop being fixed. My husband had told her the night before I took it, that I would be taking it to work the following day. The following day came and within 2 hours of my arrival at work, I recieved a text from her. It said" Did you take my car?" I replied yes I did and that my husband had told her. She replied "I wish you would of asked me because my friend (a guy she likes) was coming over to fix the broken door on it today. No one ever asks me anything." I told her that my dad would fix it for her for free and she replied" but my friend is a really good mechanic and thats not the point. the point is you never asked me if you could take it". So I replied" I didnt think I needed to ask for your permission after all the favors I've done for you. I even filled up the tank with my own gas money. I never asked you for a dime." She replied angrily," Dude, are you serious? I'm just saying you need to ask me for permission to drive the car. you should of told me because i had plans to fix it today and the car is f***ing gone. Don't do s*** for me anymore. You could of just told me you needed the car or was the so f***ing hard now that you have to be telling me s*** all the time? F*** you! Take the f***ing car wherever the hell you want. I don't give a f***! Have a great day! Bye bye!"

I called her back on her phone and told her to never disrespect me like that after all I have done for her and her baby. I thought since we were family it was not a big deal that I take a car to work which is a few minutes away from my home. It upset me and just made me feel unappreciated. I felt like it was childish of her to act that way over a car? I did not cuss back at her because I am not that type of person. She tried to talk to me as as soon as I got home but I told her I had nothing to say to her. She ended up moving out the next day and texted me to let her know when I was ready to talk and she said sorry through text. Its been almost a month and I still have not spoken to her. I realize we are family and we need to resolve the issues, but I am so disgusted with her. What do you think I should do? Or do I do anything at all? She has only texted me sorry. Not one call. Not one voicemail. Not even a visit to my house to try to talk. It feels as though its really not a big issue for her to apologize to me otherwise I would've heard from her and not through a text message. Just the other day she posted on facebook that "life is awesome and f*** bitches" What do I do?? :/

July 3, 2011
8:27 pm
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mav896,

 

Maybe it's time for you to forget what happened. Couple of months have already passed so I think it's time to fully accept your sister-in-law's apology. Anyway, she's your husband's sister and a family so I think both of you should talk things out regardless of whose gonna make the first move. Resolve any conflicts before it's too late and before things will get worse between you two that can prevent harmonious relationship. You may not please everyone surrounding you but at least you're continuing to show the best person that you can be to them.

 

Just learn to forgive and forget. Smile

July 15, 2011
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Forget it and move on…

Life is short, spend good time with your husband and enjoy!!! don't worry…

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