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My brother is out of control but nobody is doing anything
March 27, 2014
8:26 am
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I sit writing this now thinking where do I start.. maybe if I explained my brothers past you can get an understanding of what he is like. my brother is just one year younger than me adnd im currently 27. when we were younger we got the same from everyone, no one was treat different or got special treatment, if I got an orange my brother got an orange etc.. but for some reason he's always felt the need to be fussy or seek attention like poor behaviour or playing truant from school, and in later life.. drugs.  its something I never understood as we had the same upbringing and taught the same morals about how education was important and right from wrong but as we've grown up he's gradually got worse. the reason im writing this today is because my brother has done something I believe is appalling yet everyone is just going on like its normal. he often borrows money from various members of family as he doesn't have a job, hes never had a job in fact. last week he called our mother and asked to borrow £1000 urgently as he was being kicked out by his landlord for not paying his rent, as he has 3 small children under the age of 4 he knew he could pull on our mums heartstrings because no grandmother wants to see her grandchildren without a roof over their heads, however she didn't have that kind of money so my brother persuaded her to call her own mother (my brother and my grandmother) to borrow the money from her, upon receiving this money a repayment plan was drawn up whereby my brother would pay back my grandparents £30 per week until he had paid it back. however this week when he was supposed to pay his first payment he basically told our grandmother to f off and stop harassing him and that they would get the money back when he gave it back. my grandfather was very cross and demanded proof he actually paid his rent with the money to which my brother flew off the handle and swore at them even more, my brother will now not speak to my grandparents who think he blew things out of proportion as a way to cut ties between them so he wouldn't have to repay them. my grandfather has now asked my mom to pay the money back to them as she almost guarantor the loan for him. my mom has enough money worries without adding another grand onto the pile. to make matters worse my brother knows our mom is paying this money in his place yet still came over today and borrowed her laptop which I now know has been put in a buy back shop so he can get more money I can only assume is for drugs. its really upsetting me that instead of cutting my brother off until he does the right thing she is just cleaning up his 1000 pound mess for the sake of seeing her grandchildren as my brother has said if she doesn't pay it he will stop her from seeing them.. im shocked and disgusted at my brothers behaviour yet when I say something to him no one will back me up. it just turns into a slanging match where my brother verbally abuses me until I get frustrated and leave.. I really don't know what to do anymore. im wondering if someone from the outside can shed some light on my situation. thanks in advance 🙂

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