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Im 20 years old but my mom treats me like a baby!!!
October 20, 2013
7:46 am
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Im 20 but my mom treats me like a dumb baby. Im graduating from college in a few months (in our country college starts at 16yrs) but she still wont let me be independeny at all. She drops me off and picks me up at school, she wouldnt let me go out late, she wouldnt even let me commute, or do house chores! It's frustrating cos I wanna learn to be independent and mature in order to get a better job and provide for her. She is a single mom and I love her so much of course thats why im working hard to be successful, but how can I be if she wouldnt even let me do things on my own?? It's dragging me way down. I try to confront her but we just end up fighting and she just wont listen to me. To be honest Im a very nice kid. I have few close friends which are all good people at school or at home, i have a boyfriend who came from a good family. I have good grades, and i obey rules all the time. All i want is to be mature but my mom just meddles with everything. I cant learn from my mistakes cos she wouldnt even let me close to making mistakes. I couldnt learn life because she wont let me experience it. I dont know hoe am I gonna get a job after graduation cos she wouldny even let me go out of the house on my own. It's depressing because i just feel like a prisoner each and everyday. i dont know what to do anymore, sometimes i just wanna end my life to get out of these shackles. Please help me 🙁

October 20, 2013
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After you complete college what plans do you have to move out of your mom's house, get a job and live independently? What type of counseling services does the area you live in offer so you can sort out the issues that you have with your mom?

“You have no control over what the other guy does. You only have control over what you do.”

October 21, 2013
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archvillamor:

I think you & your Mom might benefit from some brief counselling with a Psychologist together.  Either that or perhaps you could write your Mom a letter expressing your thoughts in your post.  I think it's great that you want to be independent.  Because your Mom is a single parent, it might be that she fears you leaving & her being alone.  You must reassure her that living on your own does not mean never communicating with her or visiting with her.  Let your Mom know that while you are growing up & will need to establish your independence on many levels, that you will still want & need her support throughout your life.  Tell your Mom that she needs to let you do some things on your own so that you can know on your own that you are quite capable.  Don't forget to tell her how lucky you are to have a Mom like her & that it was her continual support that has made you the strong independent woman that you are.  Take baby steps.  Maybe next week tell her that while you appreciate her picking you up from school, that you would prefer to do so yourself.  Make sure she understands why.  Then follow that up by inviting her to a movie for a couple of hours on the weekend or a lunch date or some shopping together.  Your Mom might not have many friends & she might have invested all of her time around your welfare, so it will take time for her to adjust to you really growing up.

 

take it slow,

 

Good Luck

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November 19, 2013
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I think this problem can be solved after your marriage.

November 26, 2013
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I suggest you to don't take it as negative. Your mom really more care about you and offcourse she love you the most. You also said that you have very close friend and a boy friend belongs to nice family. This is the great thing you got the good close friends. I think you are the luckiest person you have a nice mom which care you a lot and a very good close friend. So don't be depresses take it as positively.

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