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Don't know what to do - living with wife's In-laws
May 6, 2015
5:35 pm
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I will try and be as unbiased as I can when describing my issue and back story.

about me: I come from a family that was somewhat broken... My mom was divorced twice and I had a decent relationship with my dad but over the years I have fallen out of touch with my side of the family with growing up and living long distance from them.  There was some drama in my child hood but nothing no one else has gone through in theirs.  Now, I've been married with my wife for 5 years with 2 kids (5 year old and a 2 year old). 

From an outside perspective, my wife's parents are very caring and understanding people. 

Back story: about 2 years ago, my wife and I had our own home and I worked full time making money just enough to pay bills but wasn't able to save. I didn't like the job either and I felt like I was going nowhere professionally.  However, I was happy with my wife and kids and our life together.  The in-laws lived in the same city and we saw them occasionally and everything was good.

About 2 years ago, an offer came to my wife and me from my wife's In-laws asking if they wanted us to buy a house together in a different state where my sister-in-law and her kids lived.  The only reason I agreed to this is because I was able to make a profit off selling my home and I could go to school full time to get my BBA so I could improve my career options.  I told my wife from the start that this was temporary (about a 2-3 year deal) and made it very clear that I don't want spend my life attached to her side of the family.  So, we all agreed on this idea to get a house together... I put in like 15% on the down payment on the house but we kept the mortgage and everything under her parent's name. 

Anyway... its been about a year and 1/2 since we moved up here and I keep going up and down with my emotions about my decision to do this.  I'm still going to school making good progress but my mother-in-law is driving me crazy.  The father-in-law has living habits I dont like but I can manage through that.  The mother though, is a brown noser and VERY opinionated.  Sometimes, I can't tell if shes giving little jabs at me when she says certain things around me to try and influence me to think like her. 

My wife's family is very close and loving.  They like spending time with each other A LOT.  It is sometimes overwhelming for me and I've communicated that before during arguments with my wife.  I feel like the bad guy a lot (and maybe I am) because I get upset over things like my mother-in-law asking my wife if I would be ok with having a graduation party at our house for their other grandchild (sister-in-laws child).  Am I being unreasonable to say "no"??

They have BBQs every weekend at our house (that I actually enjoy).  My mother-in-law is head over heals for their first grand child ( they think hes a prodigy) and want to throw him a graduation party at our home that we share.  So I just feel a little overwhelmed and if this is normal and just need to push through it and bit my tongue till I graduate and get my wife and kids out on our own.

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