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divorce, post-adoption
April 4, 2011
2:21 pm
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Cliff's Notes version of what brings me here:


I used to come here a lot, years ago. So much has changed since then.


I am newly divorced from the man I dated in high school and married shortly after. We tried for years to have a family, fertility issues, lost a baby, finally adopted three small children. Long story - they are wonderful. I was going to school and six months after the adoption, in my final semester of school, while working two jobs, doing clinicals, studying for finals....my husband moved out to be with the woman he was dating. I worked nights, hadn't noticed. We hadn't had a great marriage for awhile but I still didn't see it coming.

Since then, he has completely bowed out of the kids' lives. They love and miss him and in their innocence, speak of how they love Daddy and hope he will come get them for a visit someday. I remain in our home, paying the mortgage and second mortgage. He and the girlfriend have a happy little life in their new place. I live in and pay for our house. It's been 15 months. I have the kids full time. The house is not moving, the housing market here in the sticks of the rural Midwest is stagnant to say the least.

I've been so proud of myself that I've remained kind and kept my dignity and grace throughout. However, I've found the home I want to raise my children in. It is perfect, I love it, I'm ready to purchase it and move.

Except that I can't. I am left honoring the responsibilities that we as a couple signed up for. I adore my babies, I'm proud to have them and honestly he doesn't deserve them. But this house dilemma. I'm slowly unraveling....

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