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Can't Stand my family.
November 28, 2013
4:10 pm
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Mw805
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I can't stand being around my Mom (Parents) for a long period of time. I end up getting frustrated or pissed off. 

Daily Life: 
Everyone is constantly yelling in the house at each other, I wake up in the morning to my parents screaming at each other for no reason. 

I am being constantly blamed for messing around the house even if i havent been home all day. 

My mom is known for saying dumb things from time to time just to upset me. Example. I can be cleaning my car and she will yell across the yard "Cleaning your car so you can get all the dope and cocaine out, I know what you do." Knowing for a fact i dont do anything like that. 

Result: This causes me to become very defensives when they call for me or am around them. Knowning that i am going to be yelled at for someone or for no reason. So I "attack" first. 

Social life: 

Having a Party she always has to put someone down for saying embrassing things to make you feel uncomfortable. 

For will tell people private things that happen in our house to other people. 

Dad: He just is pretty much always complaning about something for no reason. Weather it be that the door is open or someone is cooking something that he doesnt like the smell to just pointing any little thing out to yell about. 

This as been happening my entire life since i was a kid it caused my sister at 19 yr to move another state till 27 yr and because of that she is farther behind in life than i am School/Career wise. 

My question is what should i do or am i just crazy and the problem?

November 29, 2013
5:18 am
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First of all, you are not crazy.  Second of all, you pretty much live in a slightly dysfunctional family, but likely many families operate on high levels of dysfunction.  Yelling & screaming and making aquisations is not pleasant & your Mom needs to deal with her issues, but it's not your place to tell her so.  Your Dad sounds very stressed as well.  I am sure that they doing their best & that they love you.  You never know what troubles they might have that they do not talk to you about.

Having said that, the question is, can you put up with this household?  If I were you, I would stay and try if it means not having to be responsible for your own place & bills for a while longer.  Your education should be your focus.  Try hard to ignore your folks when they start raging or upsetting you.  Go for a drive, a walk, or simply go to your room and listen to music.

 

If the situation gets over the top worse, you will have to make some decisions like your sister did and sacrifice some things.

Your post said "can't stand my family".  I know that is how you feel, but honestly they are your parents and you should begin now at your age to understand that they are just older than you, but just as human.  They will make mistakes.  Try to love them.  We only get one set of real parents.

 

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