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dating a cocaine addict
May 15, 2015
2:10 pm
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So the story goes like this. I met my boyfriend when I was 21, and he was 38 at the time. Anyway, everything was great he spoiled me, and pretty much took care of me. He said that's what a real man suppose to do, we lived together for 3 years. Anyway, for about half of the first year he will always come straight home after work, everything seemed normal or should I say perfect. I say the other half of the year He would come home late 2, 3am in the morning never once did I question him because he always said he was hanging with the boys. This went on through the next year. then I would call, No answer, I will text no answer, sometimes I'll get his voicemail. So now I'm thinking maybe he is with another women, because at 21 I never really knew about cocaine or hard drugs....everyone I knew just smoke weed. Make long story short, he knew I was getting tired of the lies so one night when he came scrolling through the house he woke me up, and said I have to tell you something...I said what? He said I'm addict to cocaine...I really didn't know how to act because I never did any research or because I never thought I would need to.
Now because he told me, he was back at home and he now would smoke in the house mainly lock himself in the bathroom for hours...it was scary at first, because I didn't know how the drug would affect him. Mental I was in a house with a addict that would come out the bathroom closing all the blinds, shuting all the lights off, yeah mental my mind didn't know how to respond. Good thing about it, he only did it on weekends. Well that's what he told me! Now I'm 28, and he is 44, things kinda started to fall apart he lost his job or wasn't getting the hours, I was laid of my job and he continues now to do cocaine ever day! How to I convince a guy that spending $500 or way much more on drugs is destroying our relationship, how can I explain to him that their are bills that are past due and to pay theses first. He now doesn't take care or pay any bills. He rides and rides around smoking and runs out of gas, then I runs to his rescue. I feel like the drug is taking over him, we don't hang out, he don't spoil me anymore and he stay begging me for my money all the time. He doesn't have a place of his own! I recently took upon myself get apartment because I was tired of living with mom under her rules...remember when we both lost our jobs we had to leave that place, I moved back with my mother and he moved back with his homeboy renting out a room. He couldn't keep up with the rent so his homeboy kicked him out...meanwhile I'm doing okay at moms. I really just wanna leave him, and be single. He comes to stay over sometimes but he say he don't know what he wanna do. He comes over eat my food, take showers and get high
Don't give me nothing but coke up dic* I'm not happy he drain me mentally he is very manipulative and selfish

I hope you can understand what I'm trying to say. Because I just texted this message on my phone.

May 15, 2015
9:18 pm
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Seek advice from a professional so you know what to do. It might be best for him to undergo rehabilitation & treatment.

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