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ALL THIS PAIN? SELF INFLICTED...PLEASE
April 4, 2003
12:21 pm
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Hi XIA,
Would you please expand on where the pain is coming from....over what?

It is hard to respond other than to say....Talk about it more so I can understand how to be supportive of you.

December 31, 2012
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Hi.  My name is Wendy and this is my first post.  All this probably comes from another topic, but I find myself stuck in the past, and allow it to effecty my present.  I've been in therapy numerous years and have trust issues that are hard to let go of, even though it is clear to me that it stems from my parents open-cheating while growing.  Additionally, my former husband of 20 years had a sexual addiction.

Any, presently I am seeing a lovely men.  There are 25 reasons why its probably in my best interest to move on (everyone else says I should) but I feel a certain love between us that I havent known before.  It's brilliant, intense but has a downside due to reality factors (such as he's an illegal citizen who's not fighting his options.  

Regardless of all the cons, I've tried a number of times to leave him (we are together over a year) I always return and he always accepts that.

Many say, I shouldnt have a man in my life right now.  

Truth be told the bottom line, in spite of all evidence I 'should' move on, I can't the power of this love keeps me glued and high.  Etc.

I don't know what advice I'm looking for here.  

Maybe it's about seeing others perceptions about their individual experiences about what feels like love's power and the struggle of times between the heart and the mind.  

Wondering if others' relate.   Thanks for listening!  🙂

January 3, 2013
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It must be hard for you I guess but you know what, you can only help yourself. You have chosen to live that way and only you who can change that. No matter how many therapies you're taking, at the end of the day your decision matters the most. If you decide to choose a different path which you think it will make you a better person then that would be good. It's all up to you.

 

Try reading self-help books or any available resources online as it can help you as well. It's just a matter of leaving your yesterday behind, wait for tomorrow and live happily in the present.

 

Wishing you well Wendy and Happy New Year!

October 21, 2013
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reading books  is really helpful

adina

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