Please consider registering
sp_LogInOut Log In
Lost password?
Advanced Search
Forum Scope


Forum Options

Minimum search word length is 3 characters - maximum search word length is 84 characters
The forums are currently locked and only available for read only access
Addicted to a Borderline Personality
May 19, 2013
6:07 pm
New Member
Forum Posts: 1
Member Since:
May 19, 2013
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

It has been about 3 years since I first met (and quickly started dating) a girl who has come to introduce more conflict, stress, pain and anxiety into my life than EVERYONE I'VE EVER KNOWN IN MY LIFE COMBINED.  And I don't say that lightly.  I don't pretend to be a medical professional but after some research and thoughtful consideration of what I know about her past and her family, I feel fairly confident that she has Borderline Personality disorder.  If its not that, she is certainly suffering from another disorder that has some of the same characteristics. 


During my time with her I dealt with many things.  She had intense outbursts of jealousy, hostility and callousness.  It was like dealing with a child sometimes.  Her ability to process difficult emotions seemed to operate at an adolescent level.  She made intense declarations of undying love and need for me.  There were vague possibilities of infidelity.  There was a rape that may or may not have actually happened.  An abortion that may or may not have happened of a child who may or may not have been mine.   It has been such a roller coaster.  I tried to break up with her some time ago but we kept in contact and ended up quickly back in the same dysfunctional cycle of emotional strain just through talking on the phone and texting! 


I'm a fairly level headed person and generally self aware.  I know I get some validation from being with her.  There is something very powerful in feeling like you're someone's "Answer".   She completely idealized me and it felt great.  But otherwise I don't have particularly low self esteem.  I come from a good family and had a relatively good upbringing with parents who are still together.  I'm generally confident and have a healthy sense of self worth.  So why is it so hard to completely let her go??  Why do I have this craving for some contact with her that lets me know she still wants or needs me??  Why can't I just walk away from someone who is clearly extremely unhealthy for me??  Why does the idea of her replacing me with someone else terrify me??  I've never been addicted to a substance but I feel like it must be similar to the sensations I'm having.  Panic attacks.  The need for some kind of contact with her.  Intense fear that my life won't work without her.  What is wrong with me??  Am I a codependant?  Something else??  What would help me leave her behind once and for all??

December 7, 2014
11:16 pm
Forum Posts: 23
Member Since:
December 7, 2014
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

You can experience the sites and can read the administrations,
medications advertised. Likewise read the clients testimonials as you can get a
thought of the sort of administration advertised.

April 20, 2015
2:12 am
Forum Posts: 5
Member Since:
April 20, 2015
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

A family health lawyer is more versed in illness and claims than a corporate lawyer is.

August 10, 2020
8:47 pm
Forum Posts: 10
Member Since:
March 25, 2020
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

A romantic relationship with someone with Borderline Personality disorder can be, in a word, stormy. It's not uncommon to experience a great deal of turmoil and dysfunction. However, people with Borderline Personality disorder can be exceptionally caring, compassionate, and affectionate. In fact, some people find this level of devotion from a partner pleasant.

Forum Timezone: UTC -8
Most Users Ever Online: 349
Currently Online:
Currently Browsing this Page:
1 Guest(s)
Top Posters:
onedaythiswillpass: 1134
zarathustra: 562
StronginHim77: 453
free: 433
2013ways: 431
curious64: 408
Member Stats:
Guest Posters: 49
Members: 111165
Moderators: 5
Admins: 3
Forum Stats:
Groups: 8
Forums: 74
Topics: 38716
Posts: 714574
Newest Members:
anissafield, Aemorph, CaitlynForlong, AndrinNetzer, MaarcusPedersen, MarcusPedersen
Moderators: arochaIB: 1, devadmin: 9, Tincho: 0, Donn Gruta: 0, Germain Palacios: 0
Administrators: admin: 21, ShiningLight: 572, emily430: 29

Copyright © 2021 MH Sub I, LLC. All rights reserved.
Terms of Use | Privacy Policy | Cookie Policy | Health Disclaimer | Do Not Sell My Personal Information