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why cant i accept love from him
May 19, 2013
10:37 pm
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ammy.adoms
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ive been dating this guy for awhile and i love him so much. he tells me that he loves me and that i mean everything to him. he said he loved me more then his mom which is kinda big since hes a big mamas boy. but i juat dont believe it. i cant accept the fact that he loves me. when i was younger id always tell my self thatd id end up being alone and no one would love me. is that why i cant accept that he loves me? cuz i convinced my self no one would. how can i accept that fact that he loves me

May 20, 2013
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Ammy,

it sounds to me that you would benefit with some counselling that relates to your own personal issues of self-esteem.  I wonder why you feel that you should be alone?  Maybe you really want to be alone & enjoy your own company best, or maybe you somehow were told by others as you were growing up that you were unlovable.  I imagine you have other friends whom you love that are not romantic attachments.  Do you enjoy their company & do they enjoy yours?  Do you have a pet?  There are many people to love in the world in many different ways Ammy.  Next time your guy tells you that he loves you more than his Mom maybe you should ask him why?  The love between a Mother & a son is not the same love of a woman & a man in love.  I have three sons.  I had a husband, I have had boyfriends.  I loved them, but they were not my children.  Some men yearn for the love of a Mother that they feel they did not get during their childhood & they try to receive it from a girlfriend or even a wife.  This is not a healthy attachment for neither the girlfriend nor the guy.  Especially if they stay together long enough to have children or their own because not only will you be a Mom to your child, but you will continue to be the Mom that this guy is still trying to get out of you.  In my oh so humble opinion, a boyfriend and or a husband should be taking care of you, not just you taking care of him.  Particularly once children are involved.  Bad situation overall for you, your kids, etc.

 

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December 9, 2013
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Who is he?  Who are you?  Explain this relationship please.  Are you her boyfriend, brother, friend or father?  Is she your wife, friend, sister or Mother?  Who is this guy?  Her supervisor, lover, friend, collegue, brother, father???  I understand there is a jealousy/control issue here, but I need to know the dynamics of the relationships before I can determine your issues.  Thanks.

 

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February 18, 2014
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ammy.adoms,

 

I think you have trust issues and you need to fix that first. Work on your inner self first and try to figure out how you can cope with it. Try the self-help options available online or read some inspirational books that can boost your confidence and outlook in life. You need to learn to love yourself first and eventually it will then be easier for you to accept love from other people or opposite sex. It doesn't matter if you fail or make mistakes cause the important thing is how you overcome them and staying positive at all times.

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