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why am i so angry at him
November 27, 2013
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my husband and i have been married for little over a year now and i just cant stop being angry at him. i dont know why but every time he approaches me i feel anger twords him i dont mean to and i truly do feel bad after. i just dont know how to control my anger twords him so im not angry. i feel like its all my falt. all he wants to do is make me happy and i can see that. i do love my husband and would do anything to make things easier for him so i could talk to him about how i really feel about him doing the dishes the wrong way or talking to me with a little comtroling manner. its the tille things that get me, like a week ago i went to stay at my parents house with my son for a couple of days just to visit and catch up. he was home alone for three days and barly worked. now i am currently a house wife and cant stand it. all i do is cook and clean and take care of our child. dont get me wrong i love doing all thoes things but i was not raised to be a house wife and do it everyday all day with no pay its not my cup of tea. thats why i left to my parents for a break. but when i reterned the house was a huge mess. i work so hard to keep the house clean for him everyday and walking into that i felt like i wanted to exploed. he didnt make any effort to clean the house just so i wouldnt be stressed i feel like getting away was pointless if im going to come home to a mess. i didnt even have the power to ask to help me clean with out wanting to shout and scream at him and since i didnt want to do that i did it my self like i always do. plz help me learn how to comunicate with him better with out wanting to scream and throw things at him its atarting to make a huge impact on our relationshipCry

November 27, 2013
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First of all, yours is a very typical problem.  Depending on how your husband was raised, he probably had his Mother do most of the housework around the house and cook meals.  I don't know about what he was doing before you met.  Was he living with his parents or on his own or with friends?  Unfortunately all you can do is have a quiet meeting with him outlining the entire list of chores that must be completed in a given day & then ask him which ones he would be willing to share with you.  Explain to him that you are overwhelmed & that you are becoming bitter at having to do everything on your own.  Even women that work full-time come home to chores & even Dads that stay at home do chores.  Somethings you can do together & it makes it a little more fun & can lead to other things once you are done!

Bottom line: No one likes to do chores and clean bathrooms etc., but it's important to keep at least some order and cleanliness in your home.  If you both come to an agreement where he actually accepts certain chores that are his, things should improve.

 

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