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Trust Issues
January 19, 2013
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wilsdot55
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I have an issue with trusting the people I love. I was just in a relationship that ended because I had trouble trusting her. Not because of anything she did directly but because of past relationships. I pretty much told her that she was lying to me because of this personal issue. I know in her heart she still loves me and I certainly am in love with her.  Can someone please help me!?! I want to be a better man that what I am now! I want to know how to love without fear of betrayal!

January 21, 2013
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I was very sad to read your post.  If you truly love this girl/woman, you need to open your heart and tell her how you feel.  If she is truly a good woman & she loves you, the pain you are causing her and the tears she is likely shedding should make you think about how you might be wreaking havoc on her person.

Leave the past behind.  Did she ever betray you?  Was she honest with you?  Was she your friend & lover & did she give her entire heart to you?

 

I would run fast to wherever she is and get on your knees & beg for her forgiveness.  A good person is hard to find these days.

 

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January 22, 2013
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If you love you have to trust. Love is an all the way thing and if you fail to recognize every aspects and parts of that love, you will end up hurting yourself and the people who loves you. Are you willing to take the risks? probably not right? So i guess you just have to learn from within. Pain is normal and you always have to go through a lot of pain before you can actually appreciate real happiness. Yes, trust is not easily gained but the choice lies in your hands, if you choose wisely then you will definitely meet and be with trustworthy people. Also, your mind is occupied with a lot of negative things and that's one of the reasons why you actually have trust issues. Try to overcome that and be positive all the time. On the other hand, law of attraction my dear. Just believe in yourself.

January 22, 2013
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Shining Light, you are right without trust there can be no real love.  The problem is that what some people consider trust is not what others do.  For example, I know this guy who claims to love this girl & they had quite the physical, emotional & spiritual relationship.  Hands down the girl loved him with her entire being.  In the past, he had been dishonest many times & many times she quit the guy, but her love for him was so intense & he gave her so much devotion when they were together.  Her only request was that he be perfectly honest with her & that if he met another girl & wanted to pursue someone new that he would tell her & break it off.  One day he sat with her at breakfast in a restaurant after a fantastic weekend together & told her that he was going on a vacation to South America & had rented a condo & was going to entertain several call girls including one he had spent time with before.  Trust right?  Honesty right?  Love right?  Compassion & devotion right?  Mercy right?  The girl that loved him gave up everything for him, all she wanted in her life was what she was willing to give him.  Still it was not enough.  So it is not so simple.  The guy honestly thought that if he slept with less call girls or if he promised to use a condom that the girl would think that that was just fine.  Imagine.  Their relationship was a long one, not a few months or a few years.  They spoke each & every day & the girl thought they had come a long way in finding true love.  In the end, all that guy was doing was being selfish & using that girl as much as he could & ruining her mind as well.  Loving another person unconditionally is useless Shining Light.  Trying to believe that real trust exists in this world is also useless.  There are just some people (many) in this world that enjoy seeing others suffer.  The more they hurt them, the better it makes them feel.  They cannot do anything but be mean except for when they are getting what they want which is to hurt the people that love them.

 

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