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Stuck in a very difficult situation
February 16, 2014
10:50 pm
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About 2 months ago I hastily moved in with my girlfriend, we had been together 2 months at the time. The reason we moved in together was because she was living with her abusive, drug addicted ex as she had no where else to go, he is a very controlling and manipulative person and made her feel guilty for living with him and coerced her into doing things to him. He has told her many times that he would put the drugs before her and once when she got in the way he broke her ribs. I felt the only way to give this relationship a fair chance was to get her out of that situation and move her in with me, as soon as we moved she kept getting low as it was a new area and she didnt know anybody, she kept trying to go back to him but the realising that she wanted to be with me. The difficulty she has is that because he doesnt care about what she does she has a easy time with him she can just get on with things and he doesnt care, because of this she has got into debt trying to please him (phone contracts, expensive gifts, giving substantialamounts of money) with things she doesnt have much of. She had no aspirations when she was with him and now shes starting to look to the future and turning her life around. I was getting paranoid when we moved in together as I was out all day and she was talking to other men online and arranging to meet with them, I know because I checked her facebook, she got mad at me for checking but I feel she was actually mad for being caught and took it out on me. Anyway we started to go to couples counselling which helped with my paranoia about what she was doing during the day and I was starting to regain my trust with her. I had told her if she cheated on me again I would have to end it. Anyway, long story short, she went to pick up some stuff from her exs on valentines day and ended up sleeping with him. Should I end it? If I do she is going to be in a really bad place, she will go back to him and I wouldn't be surprised if he attacked her again or even killed her. She has the chance of a good future with me, I want to support her through university and give her the best chance possible, if I end it though she will throw it all away. I do love her and want to be with her, I can see a future with her but I feel like I'm consistently being hurt.

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