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My sons dog or the boyfriend
August 13, 2014
10:41 pm
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tlemaster
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My son has his dog. We all move in together. The dog sheds and has been in the trash three times (the dog is brushed).

The boyfriend has a problem with Lucky. She sheds and has been in the trash. When we moved in together, I did tell him that if she became a problem the dog would be re-homed to a place where my son and her can still visit and interact with one another. No such place exists. So the boyfriend has developed a problem with Lucky.

The boyfriend has moved out and Lucky is still here.

Boyfriend saw a counselor today and this was brought up. The counselor says - "Initial belief/assesment is when a person picks or puts an animal before you. Then they really don't care/love you as much as they say they do and is shows that they are expendable. To put an animal above a person, shows/gives that you don't respect that person.

My question is - Do you agree with the counselor that the dog should have been re-homed?

August 14, 2014
5:20 am
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First of all if the dog is the pet of your son, & quite obviously your pet,  then did you speak to your son, prior to making your boyfriend this promise to send Lucky to another home?  Was your son in agreement?  I feel you never intended on making good on this horrible promise to your boyfriend & that you and your son obviously love Lucky regardless of him going into the trash once in a while.  The boyfriend left because you put your son & your pet above him & likely he was using the dog as an exuse to leave.  A pet is a part of a family.  A boyfriend is someone you are getting to know who has to either fit into the family well, or not.  Sorry to intrude by asking, but how old is your son & how long have the two of you had Lucky? 

In my opinion the counselor is wrong.  An animal is a living, breathing creature & I am assuming he continues to be loved & respected by you & your son.  Did you throw your boyfriend out, or did he leave on his own?

If your son was very attached to Lucky, having him re-homed would not be the same as Lucky living in your home, and in your post you stated that a re-home deciision was not an option.  Why did you even make this promise to your boyfriend?

 

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