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My boyfriend has an alcohol problem.....
December 15, 2012
4:28 pm
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sweetlynn78
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I have been with him for 6 years or so, it's not getting any better. He can be a good guy all week and then sometimes he drinks on the weekend he completely changes. Many times he has been in fights where he gets hurt. He has broken his arm multiple times from falling drunk. He gets mean with me and blames me for anything and everything. He fell straight on his face, chipping his tooth and left with many cuts and bruises. I have begged him to stop, I have left him, I have cried to him. He always gives me empty promises, I enjoy the happiness for a week or two but then he chooses to drink again and it starts all over again. I am mentally stuck in not knowing what to do. It's more complicated because I have 3 kids and he has 3 kids. When we met we were both abandoned my our children's other parent. They became loser drug heads and we became a big happy step family. We have our problems but his drinking is my biggest problem. His friends and family are always on his side, drinking with him and never telling him he shouldn't drink because things get crazy when he does. I guess everyone looks at me like I'm the bitch. I'm up for a fun time every now and then but I can never feel comfortable around him when he drinks, not knowing how he is going to act. I also work with his Dad and feel like if I leave him I would want to quit my job to get away from it all. I'm scared, I don't know what to do. Any advice?

December 17, 2012
9:49 am
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Suggestion: read your post and read it in a way that someone
else has written it. Just detach yourself emotionally from the content. What
would be your thoughts on someone in this situation? What would you advise them
to do?  Not sure how old you are but a
life with an alcoholic will be a long abusive one. Do you feel this is what you
want? Do you also feel that at some point in time you can fix him? Your
responsibility is to your children. Do you feel you will be placing them in a healthy
environment to develop into productive adults? 
Will they develop the tendencies of your decision making and the habits
of your alcoholic boyfriend. They deserve the best you can offer. Is this the
best you can do for them?   

I wouldn’t be concerned of what his family and friends are
saying if they are supporting his behavior. After all his friends don’t want to
lose him because he’s part of the party, someone to get drunk with.

I can imagine how scared you are and how intimidating this
must be for you. Do you have family or friends that can help you? You’ll need
support to make changes.

January 15, 2013
4:35 am
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Your boyfriend needs professional help. You can only be at peace if you decided to submit him for a rehab or undergo specific treatments for his alcoholism. Don't try to complicate things more but do the things which you think for the best or for the common good and that's the safety of your children and his kids as well. Open up yourself to his family so that you can share your observations and opinions. It might be best if you discuss things rationally with them and tell them how much willing you are to help your BF with his drinking problem. If they believe and trust you then that would be better but if not then at least you tried. I think no parents would like their child to be miserable because of addiction to alcohol.

 

Just be strong and everything will be fine as long as you know exactly what you're doing is right.

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