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lLove but NO sexual attraction
November 20, 2012
12:16 am
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I love my boyfriend. He means the world to me and I have been with him for over 2 and a half years. For the past 5 mo ths I have gradually lost the sexual attraction that I used to have for him. I dont want to give up on this relationship because I do want to be with him but I need to get that sexual attraction back somehow.

I know that I havnt lost a sexual attraction in men period because I look around and see men and say to myself "wow he's so attractive" and think that I would go to bed with him. And I feel bbad because I have had 1 instance where I did cave in and had sex with one of my guy friends that I have found sexually attractive for over a year now. I feel horrible because to me sex is sex, it is somethig that just makes one feel good. So I don't feel remorse thoug I know I should.

I know that I've had a sexual attraction to my boyfriend in the beginni because we would go for hours and there was never a dull moment. But now to me sex with him Is a chore that I have to do. Its the same routine to the finish line and yes I do orgasm but it just doesn't feel the same anymore. I feel bad for not having an intense sexual attraction to him. I do love him and don't want to leave him but I don't know how to bring back that sexual attraction.

November 22, 2012
10:55 am
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Sex is sex I guess if you don’t have a boyfriend or
girlfriend. Having a boyfriend and having sex with another man makes you not
trust worthy in a relationship. Do you think your boyfriend would approve. When
you think in terms of we and not me your relationship takes on a different meaning.
Just understand your actions and how your behavior affects the relationship
with your boyfriend. If you feel you want to play the field then don’t be in a
relationship. If you want to maintain your relationship with your boyfriend
then respect him and don’t stray. I think you need to communicate to him what
you’re missing in the sex department. There are so many ways to mix it up. Just
tell him what you like or want.

November 23, 2012
2:09 am
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I guess Doplar's advice is good enough. You love him yet you've lost that sexual attraction towards him, does it make sense? Sometimes in a relationship you also have to be creative and for you to do that, communication is the indeed the key. It's just a matter of give and take. Sex is just part of love, you can love without sex but you cannot have sex without love UNLESS you are some sort of pervert or sex addict (that's another story).

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