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I m lost. What should I do ?
July 25, 2013
4:12 pm
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lylyyy
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I asked my boyfriend t the me a ride t my yoga class. He asked me put gas in his car because it had a little bit of gas.  It was fine with me. He is month jobless but every week he get paid, he waste it all. As we arrived, he asked me for money to put gas in his car. I told him that I dnt have cash and i Need my credit card to pay for my yoga class. I also told him to use my  credit card and put gas ,then  he can give it to me back asap ( there was a gas station near the yoga school  ) he started yelling at me and threatening to break up with me if he run out of gas. He texted me saying "I'm really upset right now OK  you call me telling you don't feel good and that you want to come  downtown with me. So I go and pick you my gas is on empty then you make me take you to yoga I drop you off and you don't even give me gas money my . I leave and guess what? My fuckin car turns off on me on the freeway so I had to walk my ass home get the gas tank I walk my ass back becuz my cousinis at school and guess what the highway patrol tows my fuckin car Amira and I don't have money to get it out so please leave me alone  Hope you enjoyed your yoga " I felt bad for what did happen to him and wanted to help him. He ignored my class then he texted me "  I don't feel like seeing you Amira I'm not in the mood " 

It was hurtful. Was this my fault. What should I do ?

July 25, 2013
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Amira, I think maybe your boyfriend is really stressed out & maybe in a way you are too.  The thing is it's hard to measure on how a person copes with each situation.  Think of it this way:  You might really love the taste of sushi, but your boyfriend won't even  try sushi & so if you save your money & you can afford to dine away from home, you never get to go to eat sushi because he simply refuses to even try it.  It's not on the list of acceptable food choices because you wanna be with him & so you forego your love of sushi for his company.  So, I understand that the yoga means quite a bit to you, but I bet your boyfriend doesn't do yoga right?  Now, his anger is justified in that he cannot understand your frustration & his level of stress is different from yours.  He tries to do the thing that you want, but it ends up making him more stressed out & resentful.  Your boyfriend should not threaten you with splitting up because of the stress.  It was good that he just said that he was not in the mood to speak or see you now.  I can see why he is down if he needs to ask you for money just to get gas, and you just want to do Yoga.  Do you have a job & more money than him?  I mean it's impossible for me to judge your situation as I am not you and you are not your boyfriend.  Do you follow what I mean?  What I can tell you is that if  you love him & if he is a good guy, then maybe you could just try to be a little more sensitive to how badly he might feel also.  Seriously, only you and him can try to solve this.

 

I hope things get better for both of you soon

O.D.

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